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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-28-2019, 01:16 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 475
Posted By tilt
Get the Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker from the...

Get the Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker from the library. There are specific strategies in the book. I agree with transitioning to a new email adr we and checking the one he knows about only once a...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-16-2019, 11:08 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
Oh I totally agree! But Judges definitely have...

Oh I totally agree! But Judges definitely have their biases; as self-reps we have to be mindful of those biases and how the Judge’s views affects their decisions. It is a systemic problem.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-15-2019, 02:47 PM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
I always try to respond within the deadlines as...

I always try to respond within the deadlines as them not adhering looks bad on them, not you, and you don’t want the other side to spin it as “well she is late toooo” - making you both at fault.
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Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-15-2019, 12:13 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
If it is going to be a Motion heading be sure to...

If it is going to be a Motion heading be sure to file a Motion Record with a VERY thorough factum citing current case law.
Forum: Divorce Support 12-14-2019, 07:30 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 646
Posted By tilt
It is a matrimonial home. She mingled her...

It is a matrimonial home. She mingled her inheritance into their common assets so it can’t be excluded. Fill out the comparison of net family property with the entire value of the house in her Column...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-14-2019, 06:32 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 279
Posted By tilt
If you agree it is not working, then why go to...

If you agree it is not working, then why go to Court? You can file a new, on-consent, agreement if you want. Or just informally agree to 50/50 and table off-set child support.

Filing an...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-04-2019, 10:11 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 402
Posted By tilt
Yep, at that courthouse you cannot have a...

Yep, at that courthouse you cannot have a settlement conference until after the Motion is heard. You run the risk of no CS being Ordred since you have no proof of income (what you have does not prove...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-04-2019, 08:30 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 402
Posted By tilt
Judges are also now using their discretion on...

Judges are also now using their discretion on deadlines because of the number of lawyers that unreasonable litigants are hiding behind.

CS is NOT urgent. I know it feels that way to you but...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-04-2019, 07:38 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 402
Posted By tilt
The Rules are designed for reasonable parties...

The Rules are designed for reasonable parties each represented by a professional lawyer. With the rise of self-reps many Judges have taken on pro-active case management where deadlines are tightened...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-01-2019, 08:26 PM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
the lawyer I had at the time has caused many...

the lawyer I had at the time has caused many problems right from the beginning because he didn't say even close to what I wanted to say.
He only referred to events 1 year prior while my ex's lawyer...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 12-01-2019, 07:01 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 477
Posted By tilt
Did you have a conversation with them before...

Did you have a conversation with them before deciding to enroll the children? Do the children know about these plans? Are you low-income, or recieng a generous CS? What is the actual cost, is the...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-29-2019, 08:06 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
Sorry, I just re-read, you would file your Motion...

Sorry, I just re-read, you would file your Motion to Change - NOT your Application. Your Motion to Change is your Pleadings.

The information you are looking for about Forms is in the Rules, and...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-29-2019, 06:29 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
Your “pleadings” are your original Application....

Your “pleadings” are your original Application. So you file Form 8 with all changes underlined and follow the instructions in Rule 11 about noting the date and Rule in the margins of each changed...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-28-2019, 06:52 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 13,620
Posted By tilt
The lawyer basically has to Consent, so don’t...

The lawyer basically has to Consent, so don’t interpret that as being on your side - a Judge would be very disappointed in her if she didn’t, and Order the Amended Pleadings be accepted without...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-23-2019, 10:10 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 402
Posted By tilt
Your case is too complex for self-rep. The judge...

Your case is too complex for self-rep. The judge at the last Appearance didn't even know what to do and followed the other side's lawyer because they at least had law to rely on (judges will NOT...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-23-2019, 09:56 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 391
Posted By tilt
I guess different courts operate in weird ways....

I guess different courts operate in weird ways. In my jurisdiction you simply schedule the next appearance (usually at the end of the current appearance). If the Trial Co-ordinator will not schedule...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-19-2019, 10:10 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 390
Posted By tilt
Are you asking for how to word Orders? Read a...

Are you asking for how to word Orders? Read a bunch of cases on CanLii and note how the Judge writes the Order (usually at the end of the Judgement). Just modify for your circumstances.
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-19-2019, 10:04 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 266
Posted By tilt
The isn’t on “Canadian Law”. Spouse has a...

The isn’t on “Canadian Law”. Spouse has a different definition for the CRA (tax law) vs Family Law. A spouse can be someone you are legally married to; or someone you live common-law with (for a...
Forum: Financial Issues 11-14-2019, 03:16 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 438
Posted By tilt
Your salary is $150,000 a year, right? And she...

Your salary is $150,000 a year, right? And she raised your children while you pursued your career with her support. It is hard for women in their forties to get a highly paid permanent position...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-14-2019, 03:04 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 317
Posted By tilt
She can file a motion to change, but it has to...

She can file a motion to change, but it has to meet the merits. Until you get something official from the Court you don’t need to engage with her. Anything to do with children - parenting time,...
Forum: Parenting Issues 11-14-2019, 09:30 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 861
Posted By tilt
And I think anyone getting a divorce should get...

And I think anyone getting a divorce should get individual counselling, regardless. Too many people think their $250/hour lawyer is a therapist, not realizing that the lawyer benefits from...
Forum: Parenting Issues 11-14-2019, 09:25 AM
Replies: 17
Views: 861
Posted By tilt
So $140/hour for counselling is a waste of money...

So $140/hour for counselling is a waste of money but a $25/5 mins lap dance is a good idea?

You can spend $50 on an oil change every six months or $5,000 when your engine blows up. Same thing with...
Forum: Divorce & Family Law 11-12-2019, 07:52 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 374
Posted By tilt
You don’t “win” with a bully by giving in....

You don’t “win” with a bully by giving in. Because you will never give in enough. Just file in Court and follow the case law that is already set. You get 50% and the table child support. He needs a...
Forum: Parenting Issues 11-11-2019, 09:46 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 541
Posted By tilt
The school should have called CAS. I would follow...

The school should have called CAS. I would follow up with the school to verify the time the child was dropped off without supervision (almost all school have security cameras now) and request they...
Forum: Financial Issues 11-08-2019, 02:00 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 381
Posted By tilt
Mediation works for reasonable people who just...

Mediation works for reasonable people who just have different priorities. It is a great tool for an unreasonable person to wear down the other party so they will agree to a terrible deal. How long...
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