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WorkingDAD 11-18-2011 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by winterwolf7 (Post 80328)
I read the canlii decisions. Holy crap, that is quite a case and an epic win. I am sorry it sounds like WorkingDad may have work ahead to get his ex to follow the order.

Like most here, I have found WorkingDad to be a little wierd, sometimes arrogant, but always a very devoted and hardworking man with his son's best interests at heart. Good to see a judge agree on all counts ;)

Congrats man, I am very proud of you and a little stunned lol.

Thank you
Ok guys as for weird and all that.... I think we all have to give some flexibility to the way how we communicate. For me it not easy to express my self correctly and also you do not see any emotions, face expression etc.

I know from my own experience that text communication even in your native language bring a lot of challenges and smile faces not always help..

And again I am not saying I am perfect or something (even I never drink or smoke even once in my life :)). I am who I am and my it also sound like arrogant but I am definitively not the worst human on that planet...

And whre Judge agree that I am wierd? :eek:

Tayken 11-18-2011 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by winterwolf7 (Post 80328)
I read the canlii decisions. Holy crap, that is quite a case and an epic win. I am sorry it sounds like WorkingDad may have work ahead to get his ex to follow the order.

Like most here, I have found WorkingDad to be a little wierd, sometimes arrogant, but always a very devoted and hardworking man with his son's best interests at heart. Good to see a judge agree on all counts ;)

Congrats man, I am very proud of you and a little stunned lol.

72 pages of it all!

Usually decisions that long are best left to the supreme court of Canada!

Motorizer 11-18-2011 04:23 PM

Just read the case on CanLii...
Good job, dude.
Nice to see justice prevail.

And all you haters should shut it, he obviously had the child in mind.
After being treated like that, I'd be happy too.

Storm 11-19-2011 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by FamilyBlah (Post 80224)
Storm, PLEASE STOP! Love your son and take care of him when he is with you. STOP the other BULLSHIT!


I have 2 sons and one daughter. I do love them, what you talking about. If you have no idea, please do not talk.:cool:


end they 90 % with me

standing on the sidelines 11-19-2011 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Storm (Post 80365)
I have 2 sons and one daughter. I do love them, what you talking about. If you have no idea, please do not talk.:cool:


end they 90 % with me

Storm i think that somewhere along the line that some people got the impression you are WDs ex. Not sure where abouts that happened but I dont think you are. If you were i think you would be getting more personal about it and pointing out. I have a feeling that you are not the person in question. If i am wrong then maybe someone can post proof that you are and proof is not that you do not like WD as it seems like there is more then one person who doesnt like him.

One question for WD though. I have been reading the ruling on the internet. I cannot understand why you would stay with your ex knowing that she wanted more then you did. Once you figured out that you were not interested in her but she had strong feelings for you, you should have stopped seeing her. Maybe that would have prevented all the BS that this child is going to have to go through. I really hope that you got a prenup etc to protect yourself in your third marriage. I hope that your wife did also. Not that I am saying its going to fail but the cards are stacked against you. The stats for divorce get worse for ever marriage after the first one.

LostFather 11-19-2011 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by WorkingDAD (Post 80330)
Thank you
Ok guys as for weird and all that.... I think we all have to give some flexibility to the way how we communicate. For me it not easy to express my self correctly and also you do not see any emotions, face expression etc.

I know from my own experience that text communication even in your native language bring a lot of challenges and smile faces not always help..

And again I am not saying I am perfect or something (even I never drink or smoke even once in my life :)). I am who I am and my it also sound like arrogant but I am definitively not the worst human on that planet...

And whre Judge agree that I am wierd? :eek:

I think English obviously is your second or maybe even your third language which seems to be a huge barrier that unfortunately you're required by some in here to overcome in order to fit in.

What they don't understand they're afraid of and show their fear through some of their
posts. You're quite correct, expressions are not really transferred in here very well, at the best of conditions let alone someone from another country trying to learn our language, culture and expressions.

Wd no worries mate the rest of us and I might say the majority of us get it and you. Moreover, and most importantly the judge got it and you. So no difference if others don't wish or are unable to understand.

WorkingDAD 11-19-2011 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by standing on the sidelines (Post 80366)

One question for WD though. I have been reading the ruling on the internet. I cannot understand why you would stay with your ex knowing that she wanted more then you did. Once you figured out that you were not interested in her but she had strong feelings for you, you should have stopped seeing her. Maybe that would have prevented all the BS that this child is going to have to go through. I really hope that you got a prenup etc to protect yourself in your third marriage. I hope that your wife did also. Not that I am saying its going to fail but the cards are stacked against you. The stats for divorce get worse for ever marriage after the first one.

Well as I said I want to help her so she will get (finish) education and job. We lived in one apartment. I gave her a lot of tips and even direct talks - I will never marry you, I feel bad that I just wasting your time - please go and find some one else.... (i do not need it - one more day with you that all I need) Yes I agree that I just have to kick her out and be more firm. But it hard thing to do for me. Agreement was she finish college and go...
So what she did ? - she failed one course (last one one she took before) and said we agree when I finished it so I did not yet. Than surprise she got pregnant... Seriously! What a coincidence. Right after I said MOVE OUT. Did not happened before even once with anyone and I am not the guy who crazy about protection....

Saying all that it does not matter now. Nothing of it. Boy is born - she should suck it up and put his interest first. I did. She doesn't - just used him to punish me for I got married.

And no I do not have prenup . And my wife do not have it to. If this one failed that will be last for me for sure. Nothing left in me in that area that for sure...

It not my first but that my last marriage no matter what ...

I hope I answered your question...

WorkingDAD 11-19-2011 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by LostFather (Post 80367)
I think English obviously is your second or maybe even your third language which seems to be a huge barrier that unfortunately you're required by some in here to overcome in order to fit in.

What they don't understand they're afraid of and show their fear through some of their
posts. You're quite correct, expressions are not really transferred in here very well, at the best of conditions let alone someone from another country trying to learn our language, culture and expressions.

Wd no worries mate the rest of us and I might say the majority of us get it and you. Moreover, and most importantly the judge got it and you. So no difference if others don't wish or are unable to understand.

Thanks
For the record English is my third language but you probably can figure it out from ruling...

I also would like to add that it always was with me and did happened during the trial that under huge stress my brain somehow dig so deep that I work on some extra power/hidden capacity. It happened before when I go thru university, IELTS test, MCSE (Microsoft Certified System Engineer) test but the biggest was a Trial of course...

Fro example during the trial I could recall ANY of appointment in tiny detail.. When what that how we got there, what was that about. Did kid sleep how long wait was. Who hold him, did he cry - why. What did mom said and did
and so on ...

As they say people can remember what they did but not what they lie..
I still did not completely recover from it...

blinkandimgone 11-19-2011 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by WorkingDAD (Post 80369)
Than surprise she got pregnant... Seriously! What a coincidence. Right after I said MOVE OUT. Did not happened before even once with anyone and I am not the guy who crazy about protection....

I don't think that it would come as surprise that if you continued to have unprotected sex with her that she got pregnant. It is clear that you weren't all that consistent in your message that you weren't interested in her if you kept sleeping with her.

Surprise, indeed.

WorkingDAD 11-19-2011 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by blinkandimgone (Post 80386)
I don't think that it would come as surprise that if you continued to have unprotected sex with her that she got pregnant. It is clear that you weren't all that consistent in your message that you weren't interested in her if you kept sleeping with her.

Surprise, indeed.

Yes surprise... I actually still do not really understand how that happened. considering all what was going that time. That nobody ever before got pregnant from me... Than some freaking pills come to play... I was seriously under impression that I can not have kids. I even did some testing what confirmed some problems in that area...

saying that what difference it make now? Did you read ruling - it all there... I send a lot of messages... She could just leave... I asked he to leave.

Main point is that I love my boy. Despite all bullshit what was surrounding all that - I love my boy and never left him like she telling me regularly. And yes I feel huge guilt towards him because of the fact that he born not in perfect condition but from another point of view he might not even born at all if lets say I would be more firm and just close door.

do I regret that he was born? No I don't and never was. I love my boy and mom should think about him first not about what she want and would like to have...

some people just can not accept the fact that they can not have something even if the want it very badly... Nothing I can do about that...


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