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Ange71727 09-26-2020 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by tilt (Post 243862)
Judges are wise to parents who are trying to increase access time just to avoid CS.

Generally, pre-separation behaviour is looked at. Despite the large number of women in the workforce many co-parenting relationships depend on one parent being primary - doing the majority of the emotional and physical labour of parenting, prioritising parenting over their career/education. The parents that transition to 50/50 parenting after separation are really just continuing the status quo that was set during the relationship when it was intact.

A familiar pattern is a parent who agrees to the EOW schedule and then, a couple years after separation meets another person who isnt happy about the CS flowing to the other parent and suddenly the payor parent runs to court insisting on 50/50 with the plan to have their new partner do a lot of the actual parenting.

There are still many parents who, for whatever reason, do not want 50/50 parenting time, which is really the best for all parties. An indifferent parent is not in a childs best interest.


This is EXACTLY what happened in my situation. Dad was a shift worker and quite content with me being primarily responsible. He took 7/28 overnights (a 4 week rotation) by choice for 8 years before meeting a woman who didnt like the setup of time and support. He took me to court in 2017 and we settled on an extra 3 days and a huge reduction in support. Pre-covid he initiated court once again to try to increase right to 40% on the dot and go for off-set. His partner does most of the parenting, right down to her being the one who signs forms, buys clothes, puts her email as the primary one to use with school, doctors, etc. He is totally indifferent. Hopefully if the case progresses, a judge will be wise to this.


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rockscan 09-26-2020 12:49 PM

rvalentines, if you are acquitted of your crime she accused you of you can argue that the status quo was falsely implied. Your biggest problem is getting through your criminal case. Until you do that successfully you really have no argument.

rvalentines 09-27-2020 11:38 PM

Yes - I'm just wanting to know what the options are. Unfortunately the wait time is extra long for the outcome....will keep ya'll posted....

rvalentines 09-28-2020 12:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Ange71727 (Post 243911)
This is EXACTLY what happened in my situation. Dad was a shift worker and quite content with me being primarily responsible. He took 7/28 overnights (a 4 week rotation) by choice for 8 years before meeting a woman who didn�t like the setup of time and support. He took me to court in 2017 and we settled on an extra 3 days and a huge reduction in support. Pre-covid he initiated court once again to try to increase right to 40% on the dot and go for off-set. His partner does most of the parenting, right down to her being the one who signs forms, buys clothes, puts her email as the primary one to use with school, doctors, etc. He is totally indifferent. Hopefully if the case progresses, a judge will be wise to this.


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Wow - after 8 years....I guess there's hope for everyone? What would've happened if you refused and went to trial?
Thanks for sharing...


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