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kate331 10-30-2018 10:26 PM

Best of luck tomorrow!!! And I mean "luck" as in something that I am learning, is court can be a "crap shot".

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and looking forward to your thoughts and comments, your posts are so informative and such a huge help to all. I am just hoping that some peace can come yours and your partners way.

arabian 10-30-2018 10:44 PM

Positive thoughts are with you tomorrow. Look forward to your comments. Thanks always for sharing all of this with us.

Tayken 10-31-2018 04:51 PM

Any updates?

rockscan 10-31-2018 07:00 PM

It was five hours broken over three sessions. His ex got schooled by the judge and my partner got some serious vindication from the judge.

The ex was pretty confident and was just obnoxious. The judge went to town on her and her requests. Also went after her for what she has done and how she wasted the courts time.

He won and was awarded $3000 in costs.

kate331 10-31-2018 07:46 PM

YAY!!! Congrats. Does this mean its finally over for you and your partner?

rockscan 10-31-2018 08:02 PM

No. This motion was for a list of disclosure. They will still need to resolve the financial dispute and draft a new order for school expenses. Hopefully the words of the judge resonated and she stops with the stupidity and works within the law.

arabian 10-31-2018 10:34 PM


Is the costs award enforceable by FRO? Now that would be something wouldn't it?

rockscan 11-01-2018 09:03 AM

No the costs award isnt FRO enforceable but shes a self righteous martyr so she will pay. If she doesnt then when they work out the math on the school expenses and child support he will request it be subtracted.

Thank you for all your kind comments. We woke up feeling hung over this morning. I want to order the transcripts. Do they take minutes during motions? My partner just kept remembering things last night and I figured it would be best to have the transcripts so when his kids come at him he can quote the judge directly. I wont get into details publicly because they would identify us if she found this forum. If you have specific questions just pm me.

I want to say there was a silver bullet that sunk her but it was a number of things. The biggest was the lack of humility. She self repped because of self righteous attitude and it backfired. She had no decorum in the court. Argued with the judge and interrupted my partners lawyer to the point where she was reprimanded by the judge. Her materials were a mess. The judge flat out said he had no idea what she was asking for and when he figured it out from my partners affidavit the answer was still no. He also told her she should have hired a lawyer because they would have told her how wrong she was. It was a waste of time.

It also helped that the judge was knowledgeable. He is an expert, is a speaker on family law and has been on the bench for almost 20 years. He was not tolerating her bs.

The worst part is the kids. They wont get it. They will only hate him more now. He accepts that and said he needs to grieve for their loss and move on with his life. Its the saddest part that they will continue to live this victim behaviour because their mother refuses to accept responsibility.

arabian 11-01-2018 09:35 AM

Yes order the transcripts. Read them over very carefully. On the last transcript I ordered and received there were errors (the transcript had put in words that I do not ever use). The transcript was corrected and I received revised copy.

Transcripts, in my case, are extremely important. The last judge relied on previous transcripts to uphold Order and show how my ex repeatedly lies to court. I will forever love the judge's statement "he does not come to court with clean hands."

Transcripts will help the judge the next time you go to court in seeing what a disaster the other party is.

rockscan 12-19-2018 02:47 PM

I ended up not getting the transcripts as they were five hours long and would have cost about $2000.

Im bumping this because its been almost two months and my fianc has yet to receive either an order or the items the judge ordered the ex to provide. She was also ordered to pay costs by January 3. He has asked his lawyers office if they have anything and has not received an answer. He was going to wait to follow up when it came time for the costs payment.

Do you normally get an order following a motion like this? How long does it take? How will her refusal to comply in the 30days impact the settlement conference?

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