Unaware of the system

[sobeit]

Hello, I am new. I have an 18 year old daughter. Have been married for 35 years until I found out my husband has been cheating on me. Affair has been occuring out of the country. I don't make much money as he does (retailor). I don't have money saved up and I relied on my husband for everything, now I would like to get a divorce but my main concern is what do I get? How much do I get of everything. I am extremely hurt for the cheater he is, and would like to get a lot of cash for what he has ruined.....is this possible? I would like him to have nothing and give me most of it. I do not know if it makes a difference but I was not married here?

Thanks

[Mess]

It's not possible to get cash as payment for the hurt he has cost you. If you enter the process with that in mind you will ruin yourself and cost yourself thousands in legal costs and never get what you want.

You can and should receive 50% of all assets accumulated during the marriage. It can be complicated and somewhat costly to figure out how much and where it's stashed, or it can be simple and cheap. No two cases are alike.

You can and likely should receive spousal support after a 35 year marriage. If he has a pension you should receive 1/2 of pension accumulated during marriage.

If your child is going to post-secondary, they are still considered a dependant and you should receive Child Support IF SHE STILL RESIDES WITH YOU.

[sobeit]

I suppose Thank you for the information, but one more thing you mentioned spousal support? Do you know what this entails? How does it work? and how much?

[dinkyface]

Here is a good place to start learning about how our system works: The Supporting Families Experiencing Separation and Divorce Initiative

[sobeit]

Thank you so much