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If I get banned for posting this, so be it. I would like to thank those who helped me, and wish you all well. I hope you all get to be the parents you want to be for your kids.
Scared1: along with the posts on this forum that everyone here can read for themselves, you know that these are the ONLY 2 PMs I've sent you. Now everyone here can see that I have NEVER called you names. The only swearing I did is in the first line of the first email.
I'd also like to congratulate you on trying to run me off this board. It has been very helpful to me and I thought I was helping other as well. Maybe not. But I hope you are happy.
first PM to Scared1:
Originally Posted by billiechic
For your fucking information I was abused for 15 years. 15 FUcking years. But I am able to look past the crap that was inflicted on me and focus on what is best for my child. And that is spending a lot of time with a father who loves her.
My ex has serious mental issues. He hasn't been diagnosed, but he has been on depression meds for half our time together, on my insistance that something is wrong. They have suspected bi-polar, serious depression and even BPD. To this day he fights his demons. But I refuse to put up with abuse at his hands anymore. He is devastated because the one person who held him together for the last 15 years is no longer able to do that. I feel horrible, but it is time for me to do what is best for me and my daughter. and that is to stop the abuse. And he has finally realized that he needs help.
As for attacking you I have not ever said anything derogatory about you. You are reading things in my post that simply aren't there. I asked you to take up your personal issues with me through a PM, and you have not. You feel you can insult me on a public froum simply because you want too. That is unacceptable. I will not take your abuse either. For this reason I will be sending a PM to the forum administrator and asking them to take this up with you. I will also be including a link to Sarong's thread. I'm sure they will see that my posts have not attacked you and you will be dealt with.
Despite your nasty responses and attcks on my person. I still wish you well.
Second PM in response to her reply:
[quote=billiechic]I swore because you know nothing about me, but you ASSUMED that I knew nothing about being abused or mental illness. If you had cared to look up information via my previous posts, you would have known this information. You didn't do your homework. I apologise for the use of the swear words, if that will satify you.
You are claiming that I am judgemental, but I have been nothing but. Just because I disagree with your advice does not mean I am insulting you. Yes, I said it was an overreaction, because it IS! Do you know how many women are abused and never get up the courage to call the shelter?? SO MANY! The resources at shelters are LIMITED, so if women who aren't abused start using them, then they won't be there for those who need them.
But again, that is just MY opinion. If you disagree, I am ok with that. I did not insult your person. I had valid reasons why your suggestion was not a good one. If you look around the forum you will see that you are the ONLY one who has had a problem with my posts.
As for your reference to your home country, Canada ALSO has soldiers at war all the time everywhere. We are actually HEADING the Afghanistan mission. Why are you mentioning that? Do you actually think that US citizens are betyter people than Canadians? Why would you even mention that? Is seems irrelevant to this conversation.
AND another FYI, I have sought help for the abuse. Again, if you had read my posts, you would know that I am atttending counselling, have a counselling program set up for january for both my daughter and I. I have gone to 2 differnt shelters, spoke to a lawyer, and done my own homework. You are the only one who has the opinion that I am "taking it out" on you. You are the only person (including my ex) who thinks that I am "attacking you" or not acting responsibly. I suggest you look at your oven behaviour and responses before judging mine.
As for Sarong, she is a strong woman who needs guidance just like we all do. Yes, she can get overwhelmed, but we all do. That is no reason to pity her, it is a reason to support her. This forum is for asking for advice and help. There WILL be people who disagree with you. But if you keep an open mind you will see that sometimes others can come up with ideas that might work, ones you didn't think of.
If you continue to get upset whenever someone disagrees with your opinion or suggestions you will not get everything out of this forum that you could. Get past whatever defensive reaction you are having and actually look at what the posters are saying. But if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
Thanks to everyone who took the time to read this.
Scared1: along with the posts on this forum that everyone here can read for themselves, you know that these are the ONLY 2 PMs I've sent you. Now everyone here can see that I have NEVER called you names. The only swearing I did is in the first line of the first email.
I'd also like to congratulate you on trying to run me off this board. It has been very helpful to me and I thought I was helping other as well. Maybe not. But I hope you are happy.
first PM to Scared1:
Originally Posted by billiechic
For your fucking information I was abused for 15 years. 15 FUcking years. But I am able to look past the crap that was inflicted on me and focus on what is best for my child. And that is spending a lot of time with a father who loves her.
My ex has serious mental issues. He hasn't been diagnosed, but he has been on depression meds for half our time together, on my insistance that something is wrong. They have suspected bi-polar, serious depression and even BPD. To this day he fights his demons. But I refuse to put up with abuse at his hands anymore. He is devastated because the one person who held him together for the last 15 years is no longer able to do that. I feel horrible, but it is time for me to do what is best for me and my daughter. and that is to stop the abuse. And he has finally realized that he needs help.
As for attacking you I have not ever said anything derogatory about you. You are reading things in my post that simply aren't there. I asked you to take up your personal issues with me through a PM, and you have not. You feel you can insult me on a public froum simply because you want too. That is unacceptable. I will not take your abuse either. For this reason I will be sending a PM to the forum administrator and asking them to take this up with you. I will also be including a link to Sarong's thread. I'm sure they will see that my posts have not attacked you and you will be dealt with.
Despite your nasty responses and attcks on my person. I still wish you well.
Second PM in response to her reply:
[quote=billiechic]I swore because you know nothing about me, but you ASSUMED that I knew nothing about being abused or mental illness. If you had cared to look up information via my previous posts, you would have known this information. You didn't do your homework. I apologise for the use of the swear words, if that will satify you.
You are claiming that I am judgemental, but I have been nothing but. Just because I disagree with your advice does not mean I am insulting you. Yes, I said it was an overreaction, because it IS! Do you know how many women are abused and never get up the courage to call the shelter?? SO MANY! The resources at shelters are LIMITED, so if women who aren't abused start using them, then they won't be there for those who need them.
But again, that is just MY opinion. If you disagree, I am ok with that. I did not insult your person. I had valid reasons why your suggestion was not a good one. If you look around the forum you will see that you are the ONLY one who has had a problem with my posts.
As for your reference to your home country, Canada ALSO has soldiers at war all the time everywhere. We are actually HEADING the Afghanistan mission. Why are you mentioning that? Do you actually think that US citizens are betyter people than Canadians? Why would you even mention that? Is seems irrelevant to this conversation.
AND another FYI, I have sought help for the abuse. Again, if you had read my posts, you would know that I am atttending counselling, have a counselling program set up for january for both my daughter and I. I have gone to 2 differnt shelters, spoke to a lawyer, and done my own homework. You are the only one who has the opinion that I am "taking it out" on you. You are the only person (including my ex) who thinks that I am "attacking you" or not acting responsibly. I suggest you look at your oven behaviour and responses before judging mine.
As for Sarong, she is a strong woman who needs guidance just like we all do. Yes, she can get overwhelmed, but we all do. That is no reason to pity her, it is a reason to support her. This forum is for asking for advice and help. There WILL be people who disagree with you. But if you keep an open mind you will see that sometimes others can come up with ideas that might work, ones you didn't think of.
If you continue to get upset whenever someone disagrees with your opinion or suggestions you will not get everything out of this forum that you could. Get past whatever defensive reaction you are having and actually look at what the posters are saying. But if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
Thanks to everyone who took the time to read this.
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