Tweet
Here's the situation : He left a month ago, unexpectedly. We have 2 vehicles. One 12 yrs old, that was badly smashed in the winter time front left fender and door. It's polymer. We also have a leased 2009 vehicle. I am WILLING TO SHARE cars, as I have to drive our child around and would prefer to take her in what I consider the safer vehicle. I don't even know if this old car would pass safety now with the damage. The brakes were shot in the old car, supposedly fixed tonight - he is refusing to provide a receipt. He is insistent upon taking the leased vehicle permanently. I phoned the non emergency police to find out what the deal was with the leased car -it is in his name, but they said as with everything else that I have an equal right to the vehicle regardless of who's name it is in. I am making an effort to make arrangements to switch off with this car now and again. He is refusing. Should I just give up and take the older car or should I not allow him to bully me into this situation? My primary concern is safety.
-
-
I don't think sharing cars is a solution for separated people.
In the short term you should use the old one as you can't force him, especially if the car is leased under his name. I would focus on settling things finanically, with an immediate agreement on support (child support and spousal support if warrented), and a relatively short time to settle assets and debts so that you can then fix or buy a car that matches your income as you see fit.
He has to pay for the leased car, so at least you are not spending money on a new car.
It seems as though he is fixing the old one. A new car is nice to have, but a 12 year old car can be perfectly safe - mine is 10 years old and I don't want to spend money on a new one as mine is as good as it was practically as when it was new (safety wise anyway). -
added point to billms post. Sometimes the older cars are better in accidents etc. The way the new cars are made I swear you have a fly land on it and boom $500 damage.Comment
-
Well, I've relented and I've got the older car. The new one IS just a money pit that will be done with in 2 yrs time. I am going to ask that the damage can be repaired though as it is pretty severe and will cause rusting etc.Comment
Comment