16 year old has decided he wants to live at OP.
There are no specific reasons given, other than that he finds it hard to move back and forth. He loves me very much but has a preference to stay at OP.
I expressed that this made me sad and hurt and that I will miss him dearly. I asked what I could do about it, he says nothing, this is just what he prefers and OP agrees. He still wants to see me but only some weekends, vacation etc...
Besides the disappointment, there are financial consequences. We are currently 50/50 with a very small offset and no drama. OP will be asking for full C/S for sure. Financial austerity will be in order and all the nice extras will need to go.
I am wondering what else I should say or do:
-Nothing more. It is his choice. Suck it up, shut up, cut down on expenses and move on?
-Explain to the kid very clearly the financial implications on me? At this age, I think he should hear it, but maybe I am wrong?
- Explain the consequences on him as far as vacations, and all other extras. This will have to go, full stop. Effective immediately. It is not a punishment, just reality.
I know many have been in that situation. Curious on how you handled it.
There are no specific reasons given, other than that he finds it hard to move back and forth. He loves me very much but has a preference to stay at OP.
I expressed that this made me sad and hurt and that I will miss him dearly. I asked what I could do about it, he says nothing, this is just what he prefers and OP agrees. He still wants to see me but only some weekends, vacation etc...
Besides the disappointment, there are financial consequences. We are currently 50/50 with a very small offset and no drama. OP will be asking for full C/S for sure. Financial austerity will be in order and all the nice extras will need to go.
I am wondering what else I should say or do:
-Nothing more. It is his choice. Suck it up, shut up, cut down on expenses and move on?
-Explain to the kid very clearly the financial implications on me? At this age, I think he should hear it, but maybe I am wrong?
- Explain the consequences on him as far as vacations, and all other extras. This will have to go, full stop. Effective immediately. It is not a punishment, just reality.
I know many have been in that situation. Curious on how you handled it.
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