I suppose the other parent is still at it with me. She has now (with a family friend that has involvement in the case and shows up at each and every single court date) started showing up "jogging" at the same park that I have started taking child to (where she has made her best friend). To give this some context, child and I started going to this park every weekday visit with her best friend (who she met and became best friends with on my parenting time) for a couple of months now and then all of oh a sudden mom and friend start showing up "jogging" coming in direct contact with asking questions that are intended to criticize the child about the certain type of drink that I bought for her during _my_ parenting time.
I see it as an intentional move by the other parent to interfere with my parenting time - to make a presence in her continued attempts to create unnecessary conflict. She is not too happy about me not engaging in any communications with her at the exchanges and seems to be looking for ways to create a fight and then call the cops and say I was threatening her or something (as she has in the past).
I cannot say that it doesn't fully not bother me as it would be like me jogging outside of the school every morning and afternoon that the child is dropped off or picked off, and outside of babysitters, and outside of activities she attends (and inside them) - coming into contact with child and other parent. I do not think that this is something I would do.
Other parent and I are not in talking terms in person and I have tried to speak to her previously just hello and bye in civil way so _our_ child learns these simple things such as how to communicate with people, etc and at times she engages me and starts asking me about court related stuff in front of the child at which point I have to ignore and respond "I would be happy to talk to you about that at a later date" and walk away - it's things like this (and prior false threats) that has made me decide that it's best to avoid any communication with her at exchanges (especially in front of _child_).
I am receiving hundreds of messages from her mocking me and trying to put me down as a parent , criticizing me about everything, telling me what to do or what not to do (e.g., don't take child to school event, etc) and complaining that I don't speak to her in person (most recently just a week before she showed up at the park). Other parent is very controlling and I firmly believe that she is brain washing child and has worked with the babysitter and coached her to not greet me properly - child only greets me properly at school where it is a neutral place and there is no external pressure from anybody against me. It does not happen at the babysitters as the babysitter has also been brainwashing the child and getting into our business about things that are simply not any of her business.
What I'm looking for here is some guidance and words of wisdom as to what is motivating the other parent and how I can best handle the situation. Right now I'm just doing "nothing" because I don't know what the right thing to do is. Child has asked me if I was happy that she got to see her mom and I just replied yes of course, I was very happy for you that you got to see your mom.
I see it as an intentional move by the other parent to interfere with my parenting time - to make a presence in her continued attempts to create unnecessary conflict. She is not too happy about me not engaging in any communications with her at the exchanges and seems to be looking for ways to create a fight and then call the cops and say I was threatening her or something (as she has in the past).
I cannot say that it doesn't fully not bother me as it would be like me jogging outside of the school every morning and afternoon that the child is dropped off or picked off, and outside of babysitters, and outside of activities she attends (and inside them) - coming into contact with child and other parent. I do not think that this is something I would do.
Other parent and I are not in talking terms in person and I have tried to speak to her previously just hello and bye in civil way so _our_ child learns these simple things such as how to communicate with people, etc and at times she engages me and starts asking me about court related stuff in front of the child at which point I have to ignore and respond "I would be happy to talk to you about that at a later date" and walk away - it's things like this (and prior false threats) that has made me decide that it's best to avoid any communication with her at exchanges (especially in front of _child_).
I am receiving hundreds of messages from her mocking me and trying to put me down as a parent , criticizing me about everything, telling me what to do or what not to do (e.g., don't take child to school event, etc) and complaining that I don't speak to her in person (most recently just a week before she showed up at the park). Other parent is very controlling and I firmly believe that she is brain washing child and has worked with the babysitter and coached her to not greet me properly - child only greets me properly at school where it is a neutral place and there is no external pressure from anybody against me. It does not happen at the babysitters as the babysitter has also been brainwashing the child and getting into our business about things that are simply not any of her business.
What I'm looking for here is some guidance and words of wisdom as to what is motivating the other parent and how I can best handle the situation. Right now I'm just doing "nothing" because I don't know what the right thing to do is. Child has asked me if I was happy that she got to see her mom and I just replied yes of course, I was very happy for you that you got to see your mom.
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