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    as the title suggests, if one parent alleges to have been a victim of domestic violence, can both parents participate in the counselling session for a child?

    I know some counselors don't allow for this, and take the "victims" word to be truth.

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    If the counselling is for the child, neither parent should be present.

    If the situation is that Parent A alleges that Parent B committed domestic violence and Parent B claims Parent A is a liar, and they're both in the same room with the kid and the counsellor, it will be a gong show (and probably of no benefit to the kid). I suggest staying out of this.

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    • #3
      Not at all a good idea for anybody.

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      • #4
        Exposing a child to two warring parents is not something that anyone would recommend.

        I would focus on your parenting time pick-up and drop-offs at a neutral location.

        In your situation I can think of no reason for you or your ex to breathe the same air, anywhere, anytime.

        In cases such as these I think a conditional restraining order, preventing the parents from being anywhere near each other, might be wise.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by arabian View Post
          Exposing a child to two warring parents is not something that anyone would recommend.

          I would focus on your parenting time pick-up and drop-offs at a neutral location.

          In your situation I can think of no reason for you or your ex to breathe the same air, anywhere, anytime.

          In cases such as these I think a conditional restraining order, preventing the parents from being anywhere near each other, might be wise.
          I don't think any of those would go hand in hand with my claims of joint-custody.

          The child is under 12 and the counselling is for the child, but parent's still participate in the sense that the counselor meets with them separately to talk to them as well.

          I've already found some counselors locally who provide counselling for child when one parent alleges to be a victim of domestic violence.

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          • #6
            If there has been no conviction of anything why is the child attending counseling for DV? The whole DV counseling thing is a game that many lawyers tell their clients to play. That way they can corner you at trial. Your consent to this counseling will be used as an admission against interest that DV happened. Hard to argue yourself out of why you would consent to this counseling if no DV happened.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Tayken View Post
              If there has been no conviction of anything why is the child attending counseling for DV? The whole DV counseling thing is a game that many lawyers tell their clients to play. That way they can corner you at trial. Your consent to this counseling will be used as an admission against interest that DV happened. Hard to argue yourself out of why you would consent to this counseling if no DV happened.
              child isn't attending for dv. I'll pm you

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