I've posted a few times here before. STBX and I split over a year ago and started the legal process in the Fall of 2015. He was resistant, mostly for financial reasons - he LOVES his money but not me. So after hiring and firing one lawyer, he got a new one and we had a mediation day last week. Mediation didn't occur together - mediator went from room to room where we were both represented. When his lawyer submitted his documents, they were incomplete - specifically form 13.1. He hadn't completed his budget or completely disclosed his assets - both at marriage, separation and now. We decided to go through with the mediation, since canceling isn't free and maybe we could get something out of it, since he'd submitted his T4 which would be enough to determine interim support (he's not paying). We also hoped to get a parenting plan out of it, since it's all over the place and we see each other too often and it's volatile.
Anyway, we got NOTHING done at mediation. The mediator was not calm, and seemed to be on side with my STBX about his financial claims, even though he had no proof of most of his claims. His self generated 'spreadsheet' wasn't even accurate and contained many mistakes. We ended early and my lawyer sent a draft parenting proposal to his lawyer, and I haven't heard anything since. We wasted 5 hours there.
I just got the bill for mediation. All totalled, the day cost me over 10k including prep time. What do I do now? I can't afford these types of legal bills when there's no progress. He's known for stalling and basically doing nothing, in an effort to thwart the process.
Anyway, we got NOTHING done at mediation. The mediator was not calm, and seemed to be on side with my STBX about his financial claims, even though he had no proof of most of his claims. His self generated 'spreadsheet' wasn't even accurate and contained many mistakes. We ended early and my lawyer sent a draft parenting proposal to his lawyer, and I haven't heard anything since. We wasted 5 hours there.
I just got the bill for mediation. All totalled, the day cost me over 10k including prep time. What do I do now? I can't afford these types of legal bills when there's no progress. He's known for stalling and basically doing nothing, in an effort to thwart the process.
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