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    We have a fluxuating 40/60 (usually no less than 42/58) shared parenting/shared custody agreement due to work schedules.

    The crux of our custody agreement is hump day. At the end of every year, we're to decide with the ex "which Wednesdays" each recieves. The ex believes they're hers to award and control. We immediately sought out the PC as written up in the order.

    Keep in mind that the PC was to have been agreed upon last April and put on retainer immediately upon deciding that the issue could not be resolved. The ex delayed this process for almost a year and continues to delay it.

    The ex refuses to allow us more than 1/5 of the Wednesdays. We'd like all of the Wednesdays but we're asking for 1/2. And here's why...
    - we have split week custody, not week about. We're asking for minimum two days a week when we don't have the weekend. The children are very stressed on single nights, no one but us sees it and no one seems to believe us or care.
    -eldest child has delayed learning which we can/are supporting more actively due to a wealth of academic support around us (including Special Ed teachers in the family)
    -it eliminates any need for debate with the ex over "which Wednesdays". This relationship is toxic.

    The PC seems hung up on two things -
    -support payments
    -summer access

    Neither of these are why he was retained. He stated that he would arbitrate no less than what we have so 40/60 set-off support should be maintained. Summer access isn't the issue and is agreed upon in the order.

    He told us to adjust our expectations. Does that not seem bias to anyone else? Like he's already decided what's going to happen?

    How do we get the PC to focus on the issue and ignore these other things?

    Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

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    Does anyone have any guidance with Parenting Coordinators?

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    • #3
      I really liked our parenting coordinator but I asked her to help us write a schedule, not to mediate after the fact. Are you in Ottawa? PM me and I will send you more info.

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