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  • Contacting In-Laws: Good or Bad Idea?

    I'm writing my case conference brief, as well as a notice of motion for access which I'll be filing next week along with a general affidavit with evidence to be added to the case file. My initial case conference is being held at the beginning of June, and I'm hoping to schedule the motion for a week or two after that date (obviously asap).

    Up until about a week ago I was allowed the opportunity to see my kids once a week for 1-3 hours depending on the location where we would meet. This all changed when I asked for more details about how the kids were doing during the day (apparently it's annoying to have to share details of your children's daily lives with your ex, who doesn't get to see them often). She has since told she will not longer be responding to my emails, and to route all communication through her lawyer.

    Her lawyer is not responding to my requests to discuss temporary access, and my ex is also not responding to my inquiries about why her lawyer is not responding. My lawyer has advised me to be patient and file the necessary items I mentioned above...and then follow through with the court process. She says that I'm welcome to keep making requests, but should limit the frequency so they don't become harassing.

    Up to this point I've made it a point not to get family involved (whether my own or in-laws), but I'm wondering if it would be helpful to reach out to the grandparents via email to see if they would help opening a dialog. I don't think they would approve of my ex's behavior if they knew what she was doing. I realize blood is thicker than water, but is it worth the effort or inadvisable?

    Interested in the communities thoughts on this.


    For details of my specific situation check out:
    http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...-record-17460/

  • #2
    I wouldn't do it. The ex has asked that you only contact her lawyer and your lawyer has advised you to file the necessary paperwork and has also warned you about harassment. You contact the ex inlaws and that will piss off the ex even more and I am not sure if she would even listen to them if she thinks they are siding with you.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by standing on the sidelines View Post
      I wouldn't do it. The ex has asked that you only contact her lawyer and your lawyer has advised you to file the necessary paperwork and has also warned you about harassment. You contact the ex inlaws and that will piss off the ex even more and I am not sure if she would even listen to them if she thinks they are siding with you.
      That makes sense...as hard as it is to not see the kids. Thanks for your input.

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      • #4
        Divorce is a complicated mess - and that's in the best case scenario. The less people involved, the simpler things will be. I would suggest that you take your lawyer's advice and be patient.
        It would indeed appear harassing if you dodged your Ex and contacted HER parents. Blood is thicker than water as they say.

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        • #5
          I wouldn't bother, if I were you.
          I tried that with my ex-in-laws, thinking that they would put the BIC of the children first, but they didn't. They back their son, no matter how crappy he treats our kids or how little contact there is.
          Take your lawyers advice and stay patient.
          Sorry you're going through this!

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