Hi there. I've been following this forum for over 5 years and finally decided to post... in need of some opinions.
My boyfriend and I are both divorced, living together and both have children. My 2 living at home are 10 and 7, his children are almost 4 and 5 years old. We decided we wanted to take the four children on a vacation to Disney World this year however his ex not consenting to the trip.
Her first issue was that SHE wanted to be the one to take them to Disney first. How dare he not respect her feelings. She actually cried for approx half hour asking how he could do this to her. Because of her financial situation she isn't even able to take the kids herself anytime soon anyway.
Second, we orignally had planned on leaving Sept 9 at the beginning of school when crowds are low and it's more affordable. The beginning of school is usually review and we had planned on bringing school work anyway so they wouldn't fall behind. She refused because the 4 year old is starting junior kindergarten. So to apease her we change the date to Aug 22 so we would be back early enough to allow for some downtime before school starts.
Then she says they are much too young to handle such a high activity trip. He tried explaining to her that we will only being doing Disney for 3 days as we are renting a house with a pool for the kids to enjoy. the rest of the days we will be exploring Florida. The exact plan is not in place yet however it still involves naps and quiet time which is what she was worried about.
It's too long of a drive and She doesn't trust we will keep them in their car seats.
Two drivers who are not accustomed to driving long hours through the night in unfamiliar terrian is extremely dangerous for everybody in the vehicle. He explained to her the vehicle we are driving has GPS and he has driven in unfamilar terrain countless amount of times as well as driving through the night twice. Of course we would stop if need be.
The 5 year old would be extremely disappointed that the 10 year old would be able to go on rides he can't. And that there is no way we could make him understand why he can't. She says it's basic psychology. Once again, he assured her that Disney has sooooo much more to offer than rides and in no way would he make him suffer. We would do things in the best interest of the kids. This would actually be a learning opportunity for him.
They're too young, they won't remember it anyway. Wait until next year.
The ratio of children to parent is 2 to 1, and not enough. What if the children got lost?
Its too far away, period. What if something happened? She woudln't be ableto get there fast enough. They would definitely want their mother if they got hurt. She remembers coming from a divorced family travelling with her father and all she wanted was her mom. The kids will feel trapped and home sick being away for 1 full week. 2 years ago, she left the kids with us for 1 full week while she went on a Mexico vacation. So its ok for her to go to mexico without the kids? What if they had gotten hurt then or missed her terribly? (Which they didnt)
She says my boyfriend is way too active, how on earth would the kids be able to keep up with him? Reassured her that obviously we would be going at the kids pace, they wouldn't be running around trying to constantly catch up to their dad. geez.
And also the kids are sooooo young they will get tired of walking. Yes, that's why we are bringing a stroller.
This is a very summed up version. Sorry it's so long. I guess my question is, are we fighting a losing battle given their age? We are prepared to take the issue to court to get a court order for travel.
All we want is to take our family on a vacation to Disney. It's not to hurt her or anything like that. We know the kids would love it.
My boyfriend and I are both divorced, living together and both have children. My 2 living at home are 10 and 7, his children are almost 4 and 5 years old. We decided we wanted to take the four children on a vacation to Disney World this year however his ex not consenting to the trip.
Her first issue was that SHE wanted to be the one to take them to Disney first. How dare he not respect her feelings. She actually cried for approx half hour asking how he could do this to her. Because of her financial situation she isn't even able to take the kids herself anytime soon anyway.
Second, we orignally had planned on leaving Sept 9 at the beginning of school when crowds are low and it's more affordable. The beginning of school is usually review and we had planned on bringing school work anyway so they wouldn't fall behind. She refused because the 4 year old is starting junior kindergarten. So to apease her we change the date to Aug 22 so we would be back early enough to allow for some downtime before school starts.
Then she says they are much too young to handle such a high activity trip. He tried explaining to her that we will only being doing Disney for 3 days as we are renting a house with a pool for the kids to enjoy. the rest of the days we will be exploring Florida. The exact plan is not in place yet however it still involves naps and quiet time which is what she was worried about.
It's too long of a drive and She doesn't trust we will keep them in their car seats.
Two drivers who are not accustomed to driving long hours through the night in unfamiliar terrian is extremely dangerous for everybody in the vehicle. He explained to her the vehicle we are driving has GPS and he has driven in unfamilar terrain countless amount of times as well as driving through the night twice. Of course we would stop if need be.
The 5 year old would be extremely disappointed that the 10 year old would be able to go on rides he can't. And that there is no way we could make him understand why he can't. She says it's basic psychology. Once again, he assured her that Disney has sooooo much more to offer than rides and in no way would he make him suffer. We would do things in the best interest of the kids. This would actually be a learning opportunity for him.
They're too young, they won't remember it anyway. Wait until next year.
The ratio of children to parent is 2 to 1, and not enough. What if the children got lost?
Its too far away, period. What if something happened? She woudln't be ableto get there fast enough. They would definitely want their mother if they got hurt. She remembers coming from a divorced family travelling with her father and all she wanted was her mom. The kids will feel trapped and home sick being away for 1 full week. 2 years ago, she left the kids with us for 1 full week while she went on a Mexico vacation. So its ok for her to go to mexico without the kids? What if they had gotten hurt then or missed her terribly? (Which they didnt)
She says my boyfriend is way too active, how on earth would the kids be able to keep up with him? Reassured her that obviously we would be going at the kids pace, they wouldn't be running around trying to constantly catch up to their dad. geez.
And also the kids are sooooo young they will get tired of walking. Yes, that's why we are bringing a stroller.
This is a very summed up version. Sorry it's so long. I guess my question is, are we fighting a losing battle given their age? We are prepared to take the issue to court to get a court order for travel.
All we want is to take our family on a vacation to Disney. It's not to hurt her or anything like that. We know the kids would love it.
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