I have been divorced for 2 years. I have joint custody of my son with EOW access.
Come September, our son will be in school full-time days and my ex will presumably return to the workforce. At that point it's pretty obvious that our son will need to be enrolled in an after school care program for the tail end of the work day and that we'll both be picking him up from the daycare depending on the day.
It turns out that my ex's best friend runs a home daycare, lives close to the school and has a daughter in the same grade as our son. She has known him since he was born. It would seem that she would be a great candidate for his after school care except...
Throughout the divorce proceedings she was my ex's best friend. She stood by her through thick and thin, including baseless allegations of child sexual abuse against me and attempts to have my access revoked. It cost me a lot of money but I was able to clear my name. Additionally, this person even provided evidence against me to my ex's lawyer which became part of the record for the case. As such, she falls under the role of a negative advocate for my ex. I feel that under no circumstances can I trust this person to be impartial or fair and that there's every likelihood that she would be recruited and willingly participate in any future distortion campaigns my ex wants to start.
There's way too much risk to me, and more importantly to our son, that his daycare will not be a safe, neutral environment away from parental conflict. If my ex has already tried to go the sexual abuse route once, there's every likelihood she would do so again. With the support of a daycare, who knows, maybe she would succeed this time.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to respond to my ex when she inevitably "informs me" that "her son" will be attending daycare at this person's house?
Come September, our son will be in school full-time days and my ex will presumably return to the workforce. At that point it's pretty obvious that our son will need to be enrolled in an after school care program for the tail end of the work day and that we'll both be picking him up from the daycare depending on the day.
It turns out that my ex's best friend runs a home daycare, lives close to the school and has a daughter in the same grade as our son. She has known him since he was born. It would seem that she would be a great candidate for his after school care except...
Throughout the divorce proceedings she was my ex's best friend. She stood by her through thick and thin, including baseless allegations of child sexual abuse against me and attempts to have my access revoked. It cost me a lot of money but I was able to clear my name. Additionally, this person even provided evidence against me to my ex's lawyer which became part of the record for the case. As such, she falls under the role of a negative advocate for my ex. I feel that under no circumstances can I trust this person to be impartial or fair and that there's every likelihood that she would be recruited and willingly participate in any future distortion campaigns my ex wants to start.
There's way too much risk to me, and more importantly to our son, that his daycare will not be a safe, neutral environment away from parental conflict. If my ex has already tried to go the sexual abuse route once, there's every likelihood she would do so again. With the support of a daycare, who knows, maybe she would succeed this time.
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to respond to my ex when she inevitably "informs me" that "her son" will be attending daycare at this person's house?
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