Hi all,
Hoping to get a bit of advice on the wording I should use to let ex know I plan to pay a fair share of post secondary for D.
Background:
Ex & D (19 yrs) refuse to disclose any financial info including: amount of trust fund from Gramps - I know it's around 30k (he told me) but they won't admit it - ex's income - D refused to apply for any grants etc., told me I should do it if I knew so much
- D won't discuss her school plans with me, just says she hates school, wants to go back home to college MAYBE...
- D in 1st yr of uni got most expensive residence room ( shares with only 1 student), kitchen etc. - I was informed this was the ONLY option, found out later it was yet another lie
- I still pay CS to ex (through FRO)
- CO states "share equally" regarding post secondary - ex interprets this to mean D pays nothing
- Ex has stated because I'm being so unreasonable (according to her lawyer) by "demanding" all of this information that I'm not "legally" entitled to she will be taking me back to court in the new year because (in her mind) I will once again be in contempt of the court order.
So after reading many of the posts on here and looking at many cases on CanLII I think a fair portion would be 1/3 of tuition & books, CS would be attributed to cost for residence & meal plan. I offered to put D on my health plan and she refused so I will let them cover that cost themselves. (May sound petty at this point but I'm really sick of being treated like shit by these two).
Also, I did pay a year of CS while D did the victory lap taking only 1 or maybe 2 classes, I only found out later.
Does this seem like a reasonable offer in this situation? I really don't want to go to court again so although I'm made to feel like I'm a walking wallet I will still take care of my obligations as a parent.
Any helpful suggestions appreciated, thanks.
Hoping to get a bit of advice on the wording I should use to let ex know I plan to pay a fair share of post secondary for D.
Background:
Ex & D (19 yrs) refuse to disclose any financial info including: amount of trust fund from Gramps - I know it's around 30k (he told me) but they won't admit it - ex's income - D refused to apply for any grants etc., told me I should do it if I knew so much
- D won't discuss her school plans with me, just says she hates school, wants to go back home to college MAYBE...
- D in 1st yr of uni got most expensive residence room ( shares with only 1 student), kitchen etc. - I was informed this was the ONLY option, found out later it was yet another lie
- I still pay CS to ex (through FRO)
- CO states "share equally" regarding post secondary - ex interprets this to mean D pays nothing
- Ex has stated because I'm being so unreasonable (according to her lawyer) by "demanding" all of this information that I'm not "legally" entitled to she will be taking me back to court in the new year because (in her mind) I will once again be in contempt of the court order.
So after reading many of the posts on here and looking at many cases on CanLII I think a fair portion would be 1/3 of tuition & books, CS would be attributed to cost for residence & meal plan. I offered to put D on my health plan and she refused so I will let them cover that cost themselves. (May sound petty at this point but I'm really sick of being treated like shit by these two).
Also, I did pay a year of CS while D did the victory lap taking only 1 or maybe 2 classes, I only found out later.
Does this seem like a reasonable offer in this situation? I really don't want to go to court again so although I'm made to feel like I'm a walking wallet I will still take care of my obligations as a parent.
Any helpful suggestions appreciated, thanks.
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