I'll try to make this the short version.
my wife of 22 years has left the home and moved in with her parents at the cottage the children are being bounced back and forth but my lawyer says this should be viewed as only a longstanding situation of them going north during summer vacation.
Now here is the rub my wife was on leave for depression and stress when this decision was made now she wants to change her Senior job of 18 yrs and move from Toronto to North Bay and a new job, I've been the prime care giver as my schedule has always been flexible and this allowed her to pursue her career. My health went to pot 5 years ago and I've been Mr Mom to my 13 and 8 year old .
She wants mediation as I suspect she thinks she will get a better deal as she thinks the kids will naturally go with her. but my oldest is admit she stay with me. I knew that I was in for a ride when she suggested if I just turned over the whole house to her that she would not ask for child support,
Well here is how I see it with some council 50/50 on all assets she will pay child support as per tables as I can establish I was the prime care giver, hell I was alone with them for several years while she worked out of town (and had an ongoing affair) Monday to Friday I sacrificed my career to move and be dad and the health issues have left me less than Prime employable material which is annoying for a former Senior employee, so I would assume the support would be based at 1.75% x 22 years plus group benefits.
Really do not want to sound greedy but my drugs are pricey I adore my kids and the threat of moving them 250 miles north to a new job new home new life just sounds so very self absorbed on her side , is it always this unreasonable at the beginning, and will the mediator at least give her a sense of the real world or do I just file for custody tenancy child and spousal and a limit to the distance from our home in other words should I unload the heavy artillery starting now.
I'm just so damed overwhelmed and all this in one month
C
my wife of 22 years has left the home and moved in with her parents at the cottage the children are being bounced back and forth but my lawyer says this should be viewed as only a longstanding situation of them going north during summer vacation.
Now here is the rub my wife was on leave for depression and stress when this decision was made now she wants to change her Senior job of 18 yrs and move from Toronto to North Bay and a new job, I've been the prime care giver as my schedule has always been flexible and this allowed her to pursue her career. My health went to pot 5 years ago and I've been Mr Mom to my 13 and 8 year old .
She wants mediation as I suspect she thinks she will get a better deal as she thinks the kids will naturally go with her. but my oldest is admit she stay with me. I knew that I was in for a ride when she suggested if I just turned over the whole house to her that she would not ask for child support,
Well here is how I see it with some council 50/50 on all assets she will pay child support as per tables as I can establish I was the prime care giver, hell I was alone with them for several years while she worked out of town (and had an ongoing affair) Monday to Friday I sacrificed my career to move and be dad and the health issues have left me less than Prime employable material which is annoying for a former Senior employee, so I would assume the support would be based at 1.75% x 22 years plus group benefits.
Really do not want to sound greedy but my drugs are pricey I adore my kids and the threat of moving them 250 miles north to a new job new home new life just sounds so very self absorbed on her side , is it always this unreasonable at the beginning, and will the mediator at least give her a sense of the real world or do I just file for custody tenancy child and spousal and a limit to the distance from our home in other words should I unload the heavy artillery starting now.
I'm just so damed overwhelmed and all this in one month
C
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