For the past couple time we have had bfs children, his S7 has been having issues at night. We have never had any issues with him sleeping at night. However we have made a few changes.
We used to live in an apartment, during that year, S7 had a small TV in his room, as we had no other location for it. He often watched a movie at night and then turned the movie off when it was done and fell asleep. We bought a house and since the start of June, we have lived in the new house. The house we bought has a room that we consider their play room. All their toys are in that room, including their TV... the reason we decided it was best to put the TV in the play room was because D3 was getting upset that S7 was allowed to watch movies at night, but she wasn't as she did not have a TV in her room.
The first weekend they were with us, S7 had no issues going to bed without a movie, both nights... the next time, he asked to watch a movie, he was told we would watch one on the family TV before bed (which we did and then he fell asleep in his own bed)... the third weekend they were with us, he had a major freak out about not being able to watch a movie, then it turned into the birds outside were keeping him awake, then he said he just didn't like his bed, after about 4 times of him coming to complain and being sent back to his room, he finally fell asleep.
Last night we received a call from S7, freaking out that he wouldn't get "cuddle time" at night when he is at Dad's... bf spoke to stbx about the issue and it came out that for the past year she has been laying with S7 while he falls asleep. Obviously, we are not against cuddling with the children and do so while we watch our nightly movies. Dad feels there is no reason either him or I should have to lay with S7 each night for him to go to sleep. He is able to go to sleep overs, where we are sure parents friends don't lay with him to fall asleep. However, Mom said last night that Dad MUST lay with him as it is when he is most comfortable. She also said that if this does not happen, she will speak to her lawyer about it.
Legally there is nothing she can do, different houses, different parenting styles, but we would like to help S7 through this, but laying with him every night is just not an option (bed too small) and we don't feel he needs to watch a movie every night. This could be a case of S7 trying to get his way with the TV thing, however, the TV will stay in the play room where both kids have access to this.
Any advice on how to work with S7, as well as the ex?
We used to live in an apartment, during that year, S7 had a small TV in his room, as we had no other location for it. He often watched a movie at night and then turned the movie off when it was done and fell asleep. We bought a house and since the start of June, we have lived in the new house. The house we bought has a room that we consider their play room. All their toys are in that room, including their TV... the reason we decided it was best to put the TV in the play room was because D3 was getting upset that S7 was allowed to watch movies at night, but she wasn't as she did not have a TV in her room.
The first weekend they were with us, S7 had no issues going to bed without a movie, both nights... the next time, he asked to watch a movie, he was told we would watch one on the family TV before bed (which we did and then he fell asleep in his own bed)... the third weekend they were with us, he had a major freak out about not being able to watch a movie, then it turned into the birds outside were keeping him awake, then he said he just didn't like his bed, after about 4 times of him coming to complain and being sent back to his room, he finally fell asleep.
Last night we received a call from S7, freaking out that he wouldn't get "cuddle time" at night when he is at Dad's... bf spoke to stbx about the issue and it came out that for the past year she has been laying with S7 while he falls asleep. Obviously, we are not against cuddling with the children and do so while we watch our nightly movies. Dad feels there is no reason either him or I should have to lay with S7 each night for him to go to sleep. He is able to go to sleep overs, where we are sure parents friends don't lay with him to fall asleep. However, Mom said last night that Dad MUST lay with him as it is when he is most comfortable. She also said that if this does not happen, she will speak to her lawyer about it.
Legally there is nothing she can do, different houses, different parenting styles, but we would like to help S7 through this, but laying with him every night is just not an option (bed too small) and we don't feel he needs to watch a movie every night. This could be a case of S7 trying to get his way with the TV thing, however, the TV will stay in the play room where both kids have access to this.
Any advice on how to work with S7, as well as the ex?
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