As many of you know, I currently have supervised access to my daughter. I recently finished with an OCL investigation and the OCL recommended that visits with my daughter now take place in my home supervised by parents for a period of 3 months. If all goes well in the 3 months then I move to unsupervised EOW and half of holidays.
My ex, to my stunning surpirse, actually agreed to the home visits for 3 months. I saw my daughter today in my ex's house (she cancelled the visit at the Access Center and gave me a makeup today in the home).
The moment I walked in the door, my daughter did something I've never seen before. She appeared extremely stressed (sweating and panting) and the first words out of her mouth were "I don't want to go to your house." I said "why not?" and she said "because I just don't want to go." She then grabbed me and hugged me and made me pick her up and she rested her head on my shoulder. She said "can we just go downstairs and play?" She was extremely sad.
I didn't want to push her at this point so we just sat on the couch and watched tv for a while until she felt better. She went upstairs to get some paint (where her mother was) and came back down and again she says "Daddy I don't want to go to your home on Sunday okay?" I said "tell me why and maybe I can help...you always asked before if you can come to my house and we couldn't go...now that we can finally go how come you don't wanna?" She said: "mmmmmmm coz.....I'm afraid of your dogs." I said "who told you I have dogs?" "Mommy told me."
This is unbelievable. I never thought my ex would do this. For God's sake these are just visits. I know this is my ex's doing. We're talking about a kid who is always happy to see me, who has so much fun with me when we're together and has asked me countless times if she could come to my home.
Any advice? I was thinking since the OCL investigator has not finalized his Report yet, maybe I should call him and tell him what happened and maybe he can re-interview my child and see if this is something her mother is putting her up to.
My ex, to my stunning surpirse, actually agreed to the home visits for 3 months. I saw my daughter today in my ex's house (she cancelled the visit at the Access Center and gave me a makeup today in the home).
The moment I walked in the door, my daughter did something I've never seen before. She appeared extremely stressed (sweating and panting) and the first words out of her mouth were "I don't want to go to your house." I said "why not?" and she said "because I just don't want to go." She then grabbed me and hugged me and made me pick her up and she rested her head on my shoulder. She said "can we just go downstairs and play?" She was extremely sad.
I didn't want to push her at this point so we just sat on the couch and watched tv for a while until she felt better. She went upstairs to get some paint (where her mother was) and came back down and again she says "Daddy I don't want to go to your home on Sunday okay?" I said "tell me why and maybe I can help...you always asked before if you can come to my house and we couldn't go...now that we can finally go how come you don't wanna?" She said: "mmmmmmm coz.....I'm afraid of your dogs." I said "who told you I have dogs?" "Mommy told me."
This is unbelievable. I never thought my ex would do this. For God's sake these are just visits. I know this is my ex's doing. We're talking about a kid who is always happy to see me, who has so much fun with me when we're together and has asked me countless times if she could come to my home.
Any advice? I was thinking since the OCL investigator has not finalized his Report yet, maybe I should call him and tell him what happened and maybe he can re-interview my child and see if this is something her mother is putting her up to.
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