Would this bother you:
I've been divorced almost 10 yrs kids now 15 & 13, remarried 8 yrs ago, ex also in a long-term relationship. We have a strained relationship at best but when together in public we act respectful towards each other but we're certainly not inviting each other over for Christmas Dinner, etc ... normally if he picks the kids' up he'll come to the door and wait in the front entrance way.
So about 6 wks ago, ex was dropping one son off early on a Sunday morning (9am'ish) after spending the weekend with him. I was in a night-shirt in the family room and heard him come to the front door, could hear them talking and then heard the front door close so I assumed he had left. (My husband was at Cdn Tire picking up a few things as we had just moved into our new home a few weeks prior)
About 15 min. after I think ex has left, I hear hammering coming from upstairs and I'm thinking "WTF is kid doing, he better not be hammering things into the new walls without asking first". I go upstairs (still in my pj's) and walk in on my ex, in my son's bedroom, standing on a chair, hammering something into the wall. Something that he KNEW I didn't want up on my son's wall in our new home. Regardless of what he was hammering am I totally off base thinking that he had absolutely no business coming into my home and going upstairs to the bedrooms without at least asking me if I was ok with it. Never mind the fact that he was doing home reno's in MY home without my consent.
I bit my tongue at that time and just kept thinking "holy hell, if my husband comes home and see's this he's going to blow a gasket"
I did send ex a very short email about a week later asking that he please not come into my house any further than the front hallway without my permission in the future as it made me very uncomfortable and was told that it's his son's room and he's allowed in it if he wants.
How do I handle this? Kids are frequently home while I'm not when ex picks them up or drops by ... I don't want to put the kids' in the middle and say "your dad can't come into the house any further then the front door" but I'm REALLY not comfortable with my ex wandering around mine & my husbands home.
I've been divorced almost 10 yrs kids now 15 & 13, remarried 8 yrs ago, ex also in a long-term relationship. We have a strained relationship at best but when together in public we act respectful towards each other but we're certainly not inviting each other over for Christmas Dinner, etc ... normally if he picks the kids' up he'll come to the door and wait in the front entrance way.
So about 6 wks ago, ex was dropping one son off early on a Sunday morning (9am'ish) after spending the weekend with him. I was in a night-shirt in the family room and heard him come to the front door, could hear them talking and then heard the front door close so I assumed he had left. (My husband was at Cdn Tire picking up a few things as we had just moved into our new home a few weeks prior)
About 15 min. after I think ex has left, I hear hammering coming from upstairs and I'm thinking "WTF is kid doing, he better not be hammering things into the new walls without asking first". I go upstairs (still in my pj's) and walk in on my ex, in my son's bedroom, standing on a chair, hammering something into the wall. Something that he KNEW I didn't want up on my son's wall in our new home. Regardless of what he was hammering am I totally off base thinking that he had absolutely no business coming into my home and going upstairs to the bedrooms without at least asking me if I was ok with it. Never mind the fact that he was doing home reno's in MY home without my consent.
I bit my tongue at that time and just kept thinking "holy hell, if my husband comes home and see's this he's going to blow a gasket"
I did send ex a very short email about a week later asking that he please not come into my house any further than the front hallway without my permission in the future as it made me very uncomfortable and was told that it's his son's room and he's allowed in it if he wants.
How do I handle this? Kids are frequently home while I'm not when ex picks them up or drops by ... I don't want to put the kids' in the middle and say "your dad can't come into the house any further then the front door" but I'm REALLY not comfortable with my ex wandering around mine & my husbands home.
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