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OK, my ex is a CAS worker. As such, she pretty much see's the scum of the earth day in and day out (not saying everyone involved with CAS is scum, but when you hear about 7y/o's being molested and 2y/o's with cigarette burns on them, you will start to see what I am talking about).
IMO, due to her job, she has a extremely jaded view of the public, people in general and parenting. She feels she is supermom. Her mother feels the same. They both believe that the world is out to get my D6 and that she should pretty much be left in a bubble to grow.....for example of the differences in parenting style...
1. My family are seasonal campers. Site has 90 spots, 70 of which are seasonal, 3 of those are my families. We've been going there approx 5 years. We know the owners and the neighbours fairly well. As such, I allowed my D6 to walk less than 50 metres to the site store. I watched from the deck.
2. One of my brother-in-laws buddy was up at the camper for the weekend. We were all down by the lake swimming and using Buddies Sea-Doo taking the kids for rides. I head back to the camper to bring the dog back and clean up a touch leaving D6 with my parents and my sisters and their husbands. As they were walking back from the beach (it is about 200 metres from beach to camper) Buddy offers to drive the kids back in his quad-cab pickup. My 8y/o nephew and D ask to go, my sister (8y/o's mom) says yes. Buddy, nephew and D drive to camper...going 10km/h.....
Now, D6 has been programed to tell Ex EVERYTHING. What she doesn't outright tell, ex and her mom pull out of her. And they take everything she says as gospel. Like D6 said she went to the store by herself, which my ex has taken that I was inadequately supervising my D6 as she could be hit by a car, abducted etc.......the speed limit is 10km/h.....and apparently she missed the part where I watched her walk over.
Second, D told her about riding in the front seat back to the camper in Buddies truck. Ex is all up in arms about no booster and air bags, but more so about how Buddy (my brother in laws long time friend) could have molested my D and that she is not alllowed to allow with anyone who is not family.....apparently, the worlds is out to get my D and that all men are potential predators.
Now, I will agree, there are sicko's in the world, but really....I feel I am a good judge of character and so is my family. For Ex to get so bent out of shape borders on complete paranoia. And now I have to deal with D6 who looks up to her mom and Ex telling D6 what she can and cannot do on my time.....
It just sucks having someone who is paranoid as an ex. They don't see logic or reason. They just see what they want to see....and in my ex's case, she wants to believe that I am a bad parent......
end rant...
IMO, due to her job, she has a extremely jaded view of the public, people in general and parenting. She feels she is supermom. Her mother feels the same. They both believe that the world is out to get my D6 and that she should pretty much be left in a bubble to grow.....for example of the differences in parenting style...
1. My family are seasonal campers. Site has 90 spots, 70 of which are seasonal, 3 of those are my families. We've been going there approx 5 years. We know the owners and the neighbours fairly well. As such, I allowed my D6 to walk less than 50 metres to the site store. I watched from the deck.
2. One of my brother-in-laws buddy was up at the camper for the weekend. We were all down by the lake swimming and using Buddies Sea-Doo taking the kids for rides. I head back to the camper to bring the dog back and clean up a touch leaving D6 with my parents and my sisters and their husbands. As they were walking back from the beach (it is about 200 metres from beach to camper) Buddy offers to drive the kids back in his quad-cab pickup. My 8y/o nephew and D ask to go, my sister (8y/o's mom) says yes. Buddy, nephew and D drive to camper...going 10km/h.....
Now, D6 has been programed to tell Ex EVERYTHING. What she doesn't outright tell, ex and her mom pull out of her. And they take everything she says as gospel. Like D6 said she went to the store by herself, which my ex has taken that I was inadequately supervising my D6 as she could be hit by a car, abducted etc.......the speed limit is 10km/h.....and apparently she missed the part where I watched her walk over.
Second, D told her about riding in the front seat back to the camper in Buddies truck. Ex is all up in arms about no booster and air bags, but more so about how Buddy (my brother in laws long time friend) could have molested my D and that she is not alllowed to allow with anyone who is not family.....apparently, the worlds is out to get my D and that all men are potential predators.
Now, I will agree, there are sicko's in the world, but really....I feel I am a good judge of character and so is my family. For Ex to get so bent out of shape borders on complete paranoia. And now I have to deal with D6 who looks up to her mom and Ex telling D6 what she can and cannot do on my time.....
It just sucks having someone who is paranoid as an ex. They don't see logic or reason. They just see what they want to see....and in my ex's case, she wants to believe that I am a bad parent......
end rant...
and if she has that much concern, tell her to call CAS 
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