how to ignore her

[Mess]

She is baiting you. This is a form of abuse. Sit down and write out a list of examples and put some dates to them. Then stop answering the phone.

Yes it is in your agreement. No, she's not going to drag you to court for not answering the phone, and on the ridiculous chance she tries, you have your record of reasons why not.

Don't tell her you aren't anwering the phone, just don't answer. If you happen to pick up anyway, let her talk for 1 minute and then say you have water boiling and have to go. Don't get involved in conversations.

Email her about any and all details related to parenting. Keep the subject about the children and not about her or her behaviour or you or your behaviour. If she writes or says anything about you, simply reply that there is no need to converse about you, all you need to converse about is the child.

[Gary M]

Dude,

You don't have to listen. Treat her like an annoying telemarketer.

Talk about *real* parenting issues, other things that need to be discussed (e.g. finances), and nothing else.

I do have to say, though, that it seems odd that this is a problem: Nobody has a gun to your head and is insisting that you listen to her. Hang up.

There may be differing opinions, but recording telephone conversations is not generally looked upon with favour in family proceedings. At least not in my experience... I jumped for joy when my ex said she was recording everything

Cheers!

Gary

[NBDad]

Sheesh, just don't answer the phone and spring for voicemail. Then call her back, but wait til like the next day or something.

Then send yourself an email indicating what was discussed so it's documented a little bit at least.

I'm sure she has email, just a matter of tracking it down. Facebook message maybe?

[mama2bee]

I thought it was not really legal to record someone without their consent/ knowledge? I'm likely wrong on that front though...

I agree with the voice mail idea, let her leave you as many messages as she wants. Your idea with the new phone is great as well with the date/ time stamps. Otherwise ignore her, she is just egging you on so that the first negative response from you she will hold onto and try and claim you are the abusive one. Don't give in !

[atlanticcanadian]

If necessary change your phone number. My ex did this to me and stupid me fell for it. I stopped after almost being charged with harassment. Have all communication through lawyers if it cost you.

[Rioe]

You might have to answer the phone, but you don't have to talk to her. Just say "Hi, I'll get [daughter]" when she calls. If your daughter is old enough, you can let her answer the phone if you see from call display that it is her mother.

However, you said that you also call her, and don't talk to your daughter unless your daughter asks? Stop doing that. That gives your ex the notion that phone conversations are okay. Call to talk to your daughter, not the ex.
Anything you do need to discuss with her mother, you can do via texts or email. That way you can be more careful to not react with anger, and just laugh at her ridiculous comments. Be sure to feed her???

[tugofwar]

Suggestion: Try setting up a communication booklet instead if she refuses to email......

[atlanticcanadian]

I have a suggestion

Can you put on call block and if your daughter is old enough get her a pay as you go cell phone and have all communication between you and her through lawyers or the courts.