Over Christmas I had to have my lawyer send my ex a letter reiterating that I was to see my son on my birthday (just before Christmas). We have 50/50 custody. She was also reminded that we should be each be dropping off our son to the other parent as per the agreement. I had been doing all pickups and dropoffs to her until my son (4 years old) asked my why I was always leaving him. We have been seperated since July of '09.
Now, she will drop him off to me, but will not come to the door, she texts me from the driveway and I need to go out. Further, she no longer wants me to go to her door (which I had always done, for either pickup or dropoff). Knowning her as I do it is her way of being 'fair'.
I believe this odd arrangement stresses my son and he sees and more importantly feels the strangeness of the situation. This is but one issue of many, all small, but all undermining any concept of co-parenting. We have a clause stating that should we disagree on parenting issues we can appeal to a specific counsellor.
Should I invoke the clause? We are quickly becoming two completely independent environments for my son and it can be seen in his behaviour.
Thanks....
Now, she will drop him off to me, but will not come to the door, she texts me from the driveway and I need to go out. Further, she no longer wants me to go to her door (which I had always done, for either pickup or dropoff). Knowning her as I do it is her way of being 'fair'.
I believe this odd arrangement stresses my son and he sees and more importantly feels the strangeness of the situation. This is but one issue of many, all small, but all undermining any concept of co-parenting. We have a clause stating that should we disagree on parenting issues we can appeal to a specific counsellor.
Should I invoke the clause? We are quickly becoming two completely independent environments for my son and it can be seen in his behaviour.
Thanks....
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