I am in a common-law relationship with a man who never wanted a child. Here it is 4 years after our child has been born and he never really spends any time with her, he would rather sleep or play his playstation. After 8 years of being together we have finally called it quits. I unfortunately am living here until January but have my own room and am dealing quite well. He on the other hand is angry and volatile. I walk on egg shells trying to keep the peace until I can get out of here in Jan. I plan to take my 4 year old with me and he has agreed that it is the best solution.
However, the last few days he has been very resentful of me and I'm afraid that come January he will change his mind and not want me to take her. This will be unacceptable for me because she needs to be with me. I have been the one that has taken care of her every day since the day she was born.
My question is this. What do I need to have in place so that he can't change his mind and decide that he wants her. I am okay with Joint Custody, I want her to be in his life and vice versa, but I am afraid he will try to keep her just to hurt me. He doesn't want to be a parent and he has made that bloody obvious from the first day she came into our lives. Do I go for sole custody? Do I get a written agreement and have him sign it right now before he changes his mind later?
I am trying not to disturb the somewhat peaceful and amicable breakup we are going through just because I have to live with him for two more months, so I don't want to get lawyers etc....involve, that will just make him blow and living here will be brutal for everyone involved. He's a ticking time bomb. I wish I could leave right now but circumstances have me here until Jan unfortunately.
Sorry if this is repetitive, I'm frustrated and a little scared after another massive blow up this morning. I don't think he will be very agreeable once he sees me packing my moving truck.
However, the last few days he has been very resentful of me and I'm afraid that come January he will change his mind and not want me to take her. This will be unacceptable for me because she needs to be with me. I have been the one that has taken care of her every day since the day she was born.
My question is this. What do I need to have in place so that he can't change his mind and decide that he wants her. I am okay with Joint Custody, I want her to be in his life and vice versa, but I am afraid he will try to keep her just to hurt me. He doesn't want to be a parent and he has made that bloody obvious from the first day she came into our lives. Do I go for sole custody? Do I get a written agreement and have him sign it right now before he changes his mind later?
I am trying not to disturb the somewhat peaceful and amicable breakup we are going through just because I have to live with him for two more months, so I don't want to get lawyers etc....involve, that will just make him blow and living here will be brutal for everyone involved. He's a ticking time bomb. I wish I could leave right now but circumstances have me here until Jan unfortunately.
Sorry if this is repetitive, I'm frustrated and a little scared after another massive blow up this morning. I don't think he will be very agreeable once he sees me packing my moving truck.
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