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It's been a while for me, but the time's come again for me to post something. I'll give you a little background as to what's been happening. I lost my job in the town that my kids are in and had to take a job 700kms away from them. I still try to maintain my every second week access, but my ex has been trying to buck that lately. In the beginning of November, I had my kids for my access, about a week after, I was phoned from the ex and accused of mentally manipulating my kids. She accused me of driving the kids past the old marital home, which was sold 2.5 yrs ago, and telling them, "see girls, that's where we used to live when we were a family." I told my ex that I would never do that and have not driven past the house with the kids and that the only house I've ever pointed out to them was the house I grew up in. My ex straightens my 5yr olds hair. I've always objected to this as my 5 yr old has a strawberry on her lip since a baby and shouldn't be worried about hair styles and just be a kid, but my ex continued to do so until recently. My daughter has beautiful hair, and she would always get excited with me when she had curls after a bath, I got accused of putting that in her head. I also got accused of discussing cs with my 5 yr old. My ex even told me that my oldest told her bf about the house ordeal and she has not heard the words come from my daughter.
What has been happening is that my ex tried to tell me that it's not written in our agreement that I get my kids every second week, but it is stated that access would be revisited after june 30/2009. Now my ex, from these accusations is telling me that I can't have my children every second weekend. I know I need to try and find an arrangement with her, but she doesn't listen unless it's an order of the court, and from the fall of the forestry industry, I'm trying to rebuild myself and can't afford court proceedings.
My main issue has to be with my youngest daughter. For some reason, she doesn't want to come with me anymore. I just had my kids for my xmas access, and the first night was just with my oldest, which was great because I haven't had time alone with her in 3 years, but my youngest should've been there and my oldest would even say that once in a while. The next day, I spoke with the ex, and she said that my youngest doesn't want to come for xmas so that was how it was going to be. I told her that whatever is going on with her, she needs to fix it because my youngest belongs with me and my oldest. She told me that I need to fix it and hung up. About a half hour later, she called me back and offered for me to just show up and see if that worked. I know that she probably talked to someone and they told her that she'd better get me my daughter or there would be reprocussions. My oldest was excited and even talked my youngest into coming. My ex, with my youngest being difficult about this, told me that if she wanted to come back to my ex's house, to call at any time and she would come and get her. Sure enough, when my youngest's head hit her pillow, she wanted to go to her mom's house. So, my oldest daughter asked if she could call. I know it wasn't the right thing for me to do, but I wanted to show that I had my daughters feelings in mind. I'm troubled as to what my action should be to rectify this situation. I know that my youngest is not getting the support she needs from her mother to spend time with her real dad. Both my kids call my ex's bf dad, along with calling me dad. Any suggestions as to how I can make this work. My ex is saying that she's not going to force my daughter to spend time with her dad because she wants to keep this child's respect. I think it's a crock, and am ready to say, you fix this, or the courts will force you to fix it.
It's been a while for me, but the time's come again for me to post something. I'll give you a little background as to what's been happening. I lost my job in the town that my kids are in and had to take a job 700kms away from them. I still try to maintain my every second week access, but my ex has been trying to buck that lately. In the beginning of November, I had my kids for my access, about a week after, I was phoned from the ex and accused of mentally manipulating my kids. She accused me of driving the kids past the old marital home, which was sold 2.5 yrs ago, and telling them, "see girls, that's where we used to live when we were a family." I told my ex that I would never do that and have not driven past the house with the kids and that the only house I've ever pointed out to them was the house I grew up in. My ex straightens my 5yr olds hair. I've always objected to this as my 5 yr old has a strawberry on her lip since a baby and shouldn't be worried about hair styles and just be a kid, but my ex continued to do so until recently. My daughter has beautiful hair, and she would always get excited with me when she had curls after a bath, I got accused of putting that in her head. I also got accused of discussing cs with my 5 yr old. My ex even told me that my oldest told her bf about the house ordeal and she has not heard the words come from my daughter.
What has been happening is that my ex tried to tell me that it's not written in our agreement that I get my kids every second week, but it is stated that access would be revisited after june 30/2009. Now my ex, from these accusations is telling me that I can't have my children every second weekend. I know I need to try and find an arrangement with her, but she doesn't listen unless it's an order of the court, and from the fall of the forestry industry, I'm trying to rebuild myself and can't afford court proceedings.
My main issue has to be with my youngest daughter. For some reason, she doesn't want to come with me anymore. I just had my kids for my xmas access, and the first night was just with my oldest, which was great because I haven't had time alone with her in 3 years, but my youngest should've been there and my oldest would even say that once in a while. The next day, I spoke with the ex, and she said that my youngest doesn't want to come for xmas so that was how it was going to be. I told her that whatever is going on with her, she needs to fix it because my youngest belongs with me and my oldest. She told me that I need to fix it and hung up. About a half hour later, she called me back and offered for me to just show up and see if that worked. I know that she probably talked to someone and they told her that she'd better get me my daughter or there would be reprocussions. My oldest was excited and even talked my youngest into coming. My ex, with my youngest being difficult about this, told me that if she wanted to come back to my ex's house, to call at any time and she would come and get her. Sure enough, when my youngest's head hit her pillow, she wanted to go to her mom's house. So, my oldest daughter asked if she could call. I know it wasn't the right thing for me to do, but I wanted to show that I had my daughters feelings in mind. I'm troubled as to what my action should be to rectify this situation. I know that my youngest is not getting the support she needs from her mother to spend time with her real dad. Both my kids call my ex's bf dad, along with calling me dad. Any suggestions as to how I can make this work. My ex is saying that she's not going to force my daughter to spend time with her dad because she wants to keep this child's respect. I think it's a crock, and am ready to say, you fix this, or the courts will force you to fix it.
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