So I finally tracked my ex down today and we had a long, long, long, long, long, long talk.
He showed me his financials and I am agreed to drop the whole 'retroactive' stuff. I am suprised to say that we wasn't lying about his financials.... The new job he just took has a little bit of a paycut and we agreed on the new child support amount. But I believe he is trying his best...
It was shocking to realize how much that we both had 'assumed' the other was thinking, and how much pain has been caused because of miscommunication and misunderstanding.... So much hate, so much pain, all because of purely being stubborn and spiteful, on BOTH sides.
I am feeling a little embarassed about my behaviour.
He told me that his daughter wants to see her 'big sister' so we have arranged for a play date this weekend. It has been years since he has seen our daughter, but I am sooooo happy that they are finally taking a step in the right direction.
They are having a new baby soon and when I told my daughter she was ecstatic!!!! I am so grateful that they are going to let her have a part in their lives.
My daughter is already planning on sleep-overs and babysitting her sister and the new baby!!!
He also have me his mom's phone number and we had a long talk... she cried, I cried.... it really was a great conversastion!
She already emailed my daughter!!!
My husband and I took the kids out to dinner at my daughters' favourite restuarant (Wings Up), to tell her the news.
I am going to put my whole trust and heart into moving forward, instead of looking back. I am done playing the blame game...
I am so happy that I took the time to find him and talk to him with an open mind. I can sleep well tonight!
He showed me his financials and I am agreed to drop the whole 'retroactive' stuff. I am suprised to say that we wasn't lying about his financials.... The new job he just took has a little bit of a paycut and we agreed on the new child support amount. But I believe he is trying his best...
It was shocking to realize how much that we both had 'assumed' the other was thinking, and how much pain has been caused because of miscommunication and misunderstanding.... So much hate, so much pain, all because of purely being stubborn and spiteful, on BOTH sides.
I am feeling a little embarassed about my behaviour.
He told me that his daughter wants to see her 'big sister' so we have arranged for a play date this weekend. It has been years since he has seen our daughter, but I am sooooo happy that they are finally taking a step in the right direction.
They are having a new baby soon and when I told my daughter she was ecstatic!!!! I am so grateful that they are going to let her have a part in their lives.
My daughter is already planning on sleep-overs and babysitting her sister and the new baby!!!
He also have me his mom's phone number and we had a long talk... she cried, I cried.... it really was a great conversastion!
She already emailed my daughter!!!
My husband and I took the kids out to dinner at my daughters' favourite restuarant (Wings Up), to tell her the news.
I am going to put my whole trust and heart into moving forward, instead of looking back. I am done playing the blame game...
I am so happy that I took the time to find him and talk to him with an open mind. I can sleep well tonight!
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