this sounds like a terrible question but can I be forced (in Quebec) to share equal custody of my children?
I will be going through mediation with the mother of my children in a week and having done the calculations (child support + half of all current house expenses) I come up with $1,150 a month for my rent etc!! BTW we both make very good salaries so that was quite a shock!
so the connection? she will expect me to take the kids half of the time, which is a very reasonable assumption. But in Ottawa, I will be lucky to get a bachelor for $800. so I have 4 kids, 4years old and 8 years old (2 sets of twins). I can't see myself keeping them in what I can afford to live in?!! also, they have a very active life style and school. Am I expected to drive them from school and back (two different schools) every morning and night, because I can expect I will not be on a school bus route? we live in an expensive neighbourhood and I won't be able to rent anywhere close to it.
It just seems that my only options are the weekends? but I don't know if she will be reasonable about this because she travels on business at least one week out of the month, often two.
of course that's one solution, I stay at "her" place while she travels. But then I am at her beck and call for her travel agenda, and paying the rent on an appartment I won't stay in for half the time?
I hope this doesnt sound selfish (ok maybe it does), at this early stage things are very confusing and worrysome.
wouldn't mind some fathers' point of view and experience.
~P
I will be going through mediation with the mother of my children in a week and having done the calculations (child support + half of all current house expenses) I come up with $1,150 a month for my rent etc!! BTW we both make very good salaries so that was quite a shock!
so the connection? she will expect me to take the kids half of the time, which is a very reasonable assumption. But in Ottawa, I will be lucky to get a bachelor for $800. so I have 4 kids, 4years old and 8 years old (2 sets of twins). I can't see myself keeping them in what I can afford to live in?!! also, they have a very active life style and school. Am I expected to drive them from school and back (two different schools) every morning and night, because I can expect I will not be on a school bus route? we live in an expensive neighbourhood and I won't be able to rent anywhere close to it.
It just seems that my only options are the weekends? but I don't know if she will be reasonable about this because she travels on business at least one week out of the month, often two.
of course that's one solution, I stay at "her" place while she travels. But then I am at her beck and call for her travel agenda, and paying the rent on an appartment I won't stay in for half the time?
I hope this doesnt sound selfish (ok maybe it does), at this early stage things are very confusing and worrysome.
wouldn't mind some fathers' point of view and experience.
~P
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