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Hi everybody Just a quick question If I have the children and the father lives over an 1 hour away who is responsible for pick up of the children? when its time to have them on weekend..
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Unless it is stipulated in a court order if it is not your ex would be responsible. With that said I have also heard that many people share in the expense by either meeting half way or one pick ups and the other drops off. It all depends on how amicable you two are with one another. -
The judge at our last conference stated this rule-of-thumb... if the distance is greater than a 30min drive, then each parent is responsible for picking up the child(ren) at the commencement of their time (or end of the access parent's time). However, to some judges, this means nothing and they may order that one parent (usually the parent who has access) provides all transportation to and from visits. (As was the case with us, sadly, with a 1-hour-drive distance, on a good day, one way!) It really all depends on the judge and what is ordered in court... or what you can mutually agree to with the other parent, if that's possible.Comment
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That sounds fair. The only issue I think is who decided to move to create the distance and was it reasonable. If it was not reasonable then perhaps that person should do the driving. However sometimes it is best not to point fingers or judge and simply suggest a fair split.Originally posted by #1StepMom View Post
I could never move an hour away from my kids - it would be abandoning them I think and selfish. (my view of having kids)Comment
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If you have always lived such a distance apart, even before the birth of the child, I wouldn't consider that "abandoning them" or "selfish." Also, it all depends on the circumstances of the situation. For example, one parent may have to do all the driving because the other parent does not have a driver's license or vehicle. Unfortunately, this develops a status quo, and when that parent does get their license and begins driving, it is very difficult to change an order when up until then, the other parent was responsible for all the transportation. At least this has been our experience. We have also noticed that the courts don't usually take the custodial parent's moves into consideration when they move further away, yet frown upon the non-custodial parent's relocation if it increases the distance. But sometimes - as it the case with us - such a relocation is necessary for personal/economic/work reasons. If you cannot afford to live where you live, you have to move where you can, right?Originally posted by billm View Post
But ideally, each parent should be responsible for driving one way.Comment
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My husband exwife move an hour away to be closer to her husbands work, we have been doing all the driving 162 km round trip. We want her to meet 1/2 way for our Wed. 4 p.m. to 8 p.m .visit and meet half way for our weekend visit, Friday and Sunday. She refuses to help.
This is going now going to court for increase in support and retroactive pay. She knew of my husbands increases and never requested in writing any changes.
What do you think, are we being reasonable in our request.Comment
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