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Well, how to start... I was in a relationship years ago with a very abusive man. I finally got up the nerve to leave him over 13 years ago when he knocked my now 16 year old daughter out cold, (she was almost 4 at the time). after going through the legal system, because of his unpredictable and violent behaviour, he lost access to the kids. It got so bad that the police had to be at the court house every court appearance. For years he bothered me, stealing my car, breaking into my house, stalking me and the kids....that ended up with him stabbing me in front of the kids about 9 years ago. He did his time...bothered my again once when he was released, but when threatened with deportation (he's from Scotland)...finally...left me and the kids alone. Well....fast forward....The FRO took him to court because he was over 10,000 dollars behind in child support. He, in return went back to court to have his payments lowered. He had me served at work, I decided after reading the material, the emotional turmoil that I would go threw in having to be any where near him. out weighed any money issues. I had lived years without the extra money...in other words it wasn't worth it.
Monday I recieved court documents stating that that arrears have been changed...I don't care...what I do care about is that the judge,(who obviously had no knowledge of my ex's history) granted him visitation with my youngest every month on the first saturday of the month for 6 hours. My youngest is now 13 and has made it very clear about her feelings on this issue..."not in this life time". Yesterday I recieved a letter from the ex stating he will be in my apartment lobby this saturday and that "I better have Rebbeccah (her name's spelt Rebecca) there. Panic attack...I didn't know he even knew where we lived.
Last night my daughter wrote him a letter c/o his parents stating she does not want to see him. She has not laid eyes on him since the stabbing issue, which was about 9 years ago. He obviously has our address, if he was sincere in having a relationship with my daughter, why would he not write to her first and get to know her a bit? God, I have spent sooo many years in court and spent thousands of dollars.....I don't know what to do...I don't want to start all over again down that path. Any suggestions?
Monday I recieved court documents stating that that arrears have been changed...I don't care...what I do care about is that the judge,(who obviously had no knowledge of my ex's history) granted him visitation with my youngest every month on the first saturday of the month for 6 hours. My youngest is now 13 and has made it very clear about her feelings on this issue..."not in this life time". Yesterday I recieved a letter from the ex stating he will be in my apartment lobby this saturday and that "I better have Rebbeccah (her name's spelt Rebecca) there. Panic attack...I didn't know he even knew where we lived.
Last night my daughter wrote him a letter c/o his parents stating she does not want to see him. She has not laid eyes on him since the stabbing issue, which was about 9 years ago. He obviously has our address, if he was sincere in having a relationship with my daughter, why would he not write to her first and get to know her a bit? God, I have spent sooo many years in court and spent thousands of dollars.....I don't know what to do...I don't want to start all over again down that path. Any suggestions?
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