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My ex wants to change the kids schedule again. Our agreement says I get them 4 days a week and he gets them 3. He argued after it was signed, so we now do 50/50. Now he is in a relationship with a high conflict partner who is demanding week on week off. I already compromised last year with 5-2-2 during the school year and week on week off in the summer. The kids find the 5 days difficult because their dad lives outside the city, away from their school and friends and do not want to be out there 7 days at a time (they are 12 and 10). I also had to go no contact with the new partner last year because I was receiving harassing, insulting texts and emails daily, so the relationship is not good to say the least.
I have a lot of reservations about a schedule change because they are not very responsible, lie about a lot of things, skip important activities, say no to most of the kids requests to play sports, do not help with the homework, and have stopped informing me about important parenting info. They do not follow the parenting plan and the high conflict partner even said the agreement doesnÂ’t matter. They signed the kids up for stay away camp without my knowledge (and the kids didnÂ’t want to go), they are arguing about almost all special expenses because they donÂ’t want to pay and they are arguing money every time we talk.
I agreed to updating the agreement and suggested mediation with a lawyer, but they do not want to go. Over the last couple of weeks, the new partner went into my exes account and switched the shared calendar to week on week off without his knowledge on 2 separate occasions. My ex just defended her saying she was mixed up and said we donÂ’t have an agreement for the school year yet - which starts next week! I said the current 5-2-2 is the agreement and he agreed to switch back the calendar.
He has stopped returning messages, which usually means they are getting ready for an attack. I am worried they are just going to take the kids on my scheduled days to force the schedule change and put the kids right in the middle of the dispute. What can I do if they take the kids not on their scheduled days, how can I stop them from harassing me, since they wonÂ’t go to mediation?
Any advice is appreciated.
I have a lot of reservations about a schedule change because they are not very responsible, lie about a lot of things, skip important activities, say no to most of the kids requests to play sports, do not help with the homework, and have stopped informing me about important parenting info. They do not follow the parenting plan and the high conflict partner even said the agreement doesnÂ’t matter. They signed the kids up for stay away camp without my knowledge (and the kids didnÂ’t want to go), they are arguing about almost all special expenses because they donÂ’t want to pay and they are arguing money every time we talk.
I agreed to updating the agreement and suggested mediation with a lawyer, but they do not want to go. Over the last couple of weeks, the new partner went into my exes account and switched the shared calendar to week on week off without his knowledge on 2 separate occasions. My ex just defended her saying she was mixed up and said we donÂ’t have an agreement for the school year yet - which starts next week! I said the current 5-2-2 is the agreement and he agreed to switch back the calendar.
He has stopped returning messages, which usually means they are getting ready for an attack. I am worried they are just going to take the kids on my scheduled days to force the schedule change and put the kids right in the middle of the dispute. What can I do if they take the kids not on their scheduled days, how can I stop them from harassing me, since they wonÂ’t go to mediation?
Any advice is appreciated.
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