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what I mean is, in your separation agreement, when child is going back and forth on regular schedule or holiday schedule do you just have the days they go, or do you put in detail right to the hour? if you didnt put in all the detail, did it cause you problems later?
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Which way to you manage the schedule with holidays? I'll use an EOW as a simpler example, this could apply to other versions of schedules as well
There is a base schedule, then a week long vacation overrides the schedule and after, do you return to the exact same schedule, or do you switch the schedule? Example: sally has children EOW, then joe has kids for 1 week holiday and end of holiday coincided with sally's weekend. Therefore Sally missed that weekend with the kids. Do you keep the base schedule which means kids dont see sally until the next scheduled weekend, 2 weeks later? Or does sally have the kids the next following weekend, and then everytime there is a longer holiday you switch to the parent who did not have the previos weekend?
The first way, means you could plan,months if not years down the road and predict when each parent would have the kids on the base schedule, but it also means each parent at times may go without seeing kids for a longer period of time.
The second way ensures there is routine switching, but also means much less predictability. I suppose you could figure it out for a year or so at a time, but then what happens if there are surprise events which disturb that plan, and then 1 or both parents has already planned vacation or events the year out in advance.
What do you do and what are the pluses and minuses of it?
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Which way to you manage the schedule with holidays? I'll use an EOW as a simpler example, this could apply to other versions of schedules as well
There is a base schedule, then a week long vacation overrides the schedule and after, do you return to the exact same schedule, or do you switch the schedule? Example: sally has children EOW, then joe has kids for 1 week holiday and end of holiday coincided with sally's weekend. Therefore Sally missed that weekend with the kids. Do you keep the base schedule which means kids dont see sally until the next scheduled weekend, 2 weeks later? Or does sally have the kids the next following weekend, and then everytime there is a longer holiday you switch to the parent who did not have the previos weekend?
The first way, means you could plan,months if not years down the road and predict when each parent would have the kids on the base schedule, but it also means each parent at times may go without seeing kids for a longer period of time.
The second way ensures there is routine switching, but also means much less predictability. I suppose you could figure it out for a year or so at a time, but then what happens if there are surprise events which disturb that plan, and then 1 or both parents has already planned vacation or events the year out in advance.
What do you do and what are the pluses and minuses of it?
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