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    Without going into all of the details, my son is 12, diagnosed with ADD by his doctor and now that he has entered into junior high, his grades, attitude, and general behaviour are severely slipping. I tried to get my ex to agree to meds early in the summer but she would not. The doctor is adamant that this condition needs to be addressed before our son gets any further in his teen years but my ex refuses to medicate. Our doctor is puzzled as to why she will not agree.

    Our doctor told us to give him a month in his new school and see how he progresses and to this point, he is not adapting well at all. We are going back to see the doctor and I know he will be pushing hard for my son to be medicated.

    My question is, what happens in a joint parenting arrangement if my ex does not agree to medicate? Her and I are trying our best to help our son but there is something definitely off and it has been getting worse the older he gets. I really want him to suceed in school and by not acting I know that we are failing as parents. Has anyone on here gone through something similar.

    Unfortunately my ex has told my son terrible things about the medication so that he is opposed to taking it already. He is afraid that all he will do is sleep or walk around like a brain dead zombie when he takes the pills.

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    remove milk and wheat from his diet, also give him ALOT of purified water and veggies. vitamin b complex is a MUST. also i strongly recommend him to have tea that nourishes the nervous system including lemon balm, chamomile, hops and passion flower.

    have him take baths with epson salt, this is to slow him down and allow his brain to balance out.

    you also need to do a heavy metal cleanse ADd can be caused by heavy metals in the blood stream or anywhere in the body rather.

    and also the last thing you should introduce in his diet.

    fish fish fish fish and more fish. jack him up on his omega oils, fantastic brain food and also does wonders with the development of his nervous system.

    cousin had ADD i personally oversaw his treatment to make sure it works and i seen it before my eyes. 30 days he was good as new.

    be very vigorous about the diet. you need to be harsh and maintain a healthy diet that doesnt include dairy and wheat products there is alternatives to wheat and dairy for the vitamins.

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    • #3
      I find doctors are very quick to pull the adhd card and suggest medication. From my experience children who are on methylphenidate or similar drugs to treat adhd symptoms DO turn into zombies. Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD)and ADHD are often mistaken for one another too. Was it a GP or a psychiatrist who has diagnosed this? Have you received a second opinion? Has your ex suggested alternative options since she is refusing?

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Teddie View Post
        My question is, what happens in a joint parenting arrangement if my ex does not agree to medicate? Her and I are trying our best to help our son but there is something definitely off and it has been getting worse the older he gets. I really want him to succeed in school and by not acting I know that we are failing as parents. Has anyone on here gone through something similar.
        1. It all depends on how dispute resolution regarding major medical decisions is outlined in your parenting agreement.

        2. If it states that in the event you are unable to agree that you are to bring the matter to mediation and/or arbitation prior to an Application to court then, the court will expect you to do this.

        3. If you have this as part of your agreement, you simply recommend 3 mediators or arbitrators that could assist in resolving the dispute. As it is revolving the health and well being of a child my recommendation is to research and recommend 3 mediator/arbitrators that work with (as part of the mediation process) and/or are clinical psychologists. Gather up the names and send them along to the other parent and ask them to review them and pick one. In the alternative do ask them for the name of 3 additional mediators or arbitrators for you to consider as well.

        4. If you do go to mediation or arbitration it is very important that both parents prior to engaging with the professional grant consent for the mediator or arbitrator to contact/call/discuss the matter directly with the child's primary health care provider and any necessary specialist (psychiatrist and/or psychologist) directly to insure there isn't a bias imposed by any parent communicating their position.

        5. Ultimately, neither you nor the other parent are medical professionals and you should be relying upon the consensus of medical professionals to assist you in making the determination on the child in questions health care.

        6. If the child is 12 years of age, be forwarned that most practitioners of medicine will consider the child's standpoint on taking medication and their concerns. The Medicine Act does not define an age for which a child can make their own determinations on their medical decisions and if the primary care physician and additional specialist feel that the child in question can make the decision free from parental influence safely... They will recommend this to the mediator or arbitrator. (General rule of thumb is 12 but, there are many cases of younger children being granted this ability by their primary care physician. There are cases that a child has barred their parents from contacting and accessing their medical professional under the privacy clauses of PHIPA and the Medicine Act.

        7. Usually therapeutic (eg. Cognative Behaviour Therapy) is more effective (my opinion) in dealing with the issues rather than a totally pharmaceutical approach. Do consider all the options available to you in the health care system. Again, you should consult medical professionals as they are licensed and qualified to assist you and the other parent.

        8. Be very prepared to hear that medication may not be the best option or recommended and that the child's wishes in the matter are very important.

        Good Luck!
        Tayken

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        • #5
          Originally posted by SynGreis View Post
          remove milk and wheat from his diet, also give him ALOT of purified water and veggies. vitamin b complex is a MUST. also i strongly recommend him to have tea that nourishes the nervous system including lemon balm, chamomile, hops and passion flower.
          Dream Online: Gluten-free fallout

          Anecdotally, stories are being shared online of children and adults who have credited a gluten-free diet for improvements in everything from infertility and ADHD to helping clear up severe acne or depression. NBC Los Angeles reported on one family who believed that a gluten-free diet had resulted in improvements in their daughter’s autism.

          But Alan Leichtner, MD, senior associate in medicine in Children’s Hospital Boston’s Division of Gastroenterology and Nutrition, is quick to refute these tenuous connections, worrying that the public’s fascination with “going gluten-free” could lead to inappropriate self-diagnosis. “There are no studies showing that the gluten-free diet has an impact on anything other than celiac disease,” he says. “The medical data simply aren’t there.”

          Children’s Clinical Nutrition Specialist Karen Warman, MS, RD, LDN, concurs. Having instant information at their fingertips can lead some parents to overconfidence about their understanding of the gluten-free diet. “The information on the Internet, depending on the website, may or may not be accurate,” says Warman.
          ...

          Despite the benefits of increased awareness, the trend towards people going gluten-free for reasons unconnected to celiac disease concerns Leichtner. “The irony is that people with celiac disease would likely never choose to go on a gluten-free diet, unless it was medically indicated,” he says. “And here you have perfectly healthy people going gluten-free just because they think gluten is bad for them.
          Elimination diets should be medically supervised and advice to do so should be provided by a registered dietitian in coordination with the child's primary care physician.

          Originally posted by SynGreis View Post
          cousin had ADD i personally oversaw his treatment to make sure it works and i seen it before my eyes. 30 days he was good as new.
          Are you a licensed medical professional? This is very dangerous to state and I do not advise anyone to follow this advice without consulting with a licensed and certified professional who is governed under a proper health care Act.

          Originally posted by SynGreis View Post
          be very vigorous about the diet. you need to be harsh and maintain a healthy diet that doesnt include dairy and wheat products there is alternatives to wheat and dairy for the vitamins.
          I would like any advice gleamed off a message board always advise anyone to consult a licensed and registered (in good practice) practitioner of medicine.

          Good Luck!
          Tayken

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          • #6
            got this from my nurse practionioner and her boss which was a homeopathic doctor.

            sounds legit.

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            • #7
              And my homeopathic/naturopathic practitioner just died from cancer after refusing traditional treatments in favour of homeopathic care.

              As much as I believe that SOME conditions can be treated with more natural solutions, taking a homeopath's advice over a physician is VERY ill advised, IMO.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by SynGreis View Post
                got this from my nurse practionioner and her boss which was a homeopathic doctor.

                sounds legit.
                Um, a nurse practitioner in Ontario has more medical rights under law than a "homeopathic doctor" (PHD). I would be surprised if a nurse practitioner would have a boss who is a "homeopathic doctor".

                http://www.cno.org/Global/docs/prac/41038_StrdRnec.pdf

                Check out the "controll act" for which a NP can practice under in comparison to a "homeopathic doctor" (PHD) under the various Acts... A "nurse practitioner" is much more qualified to deliver health care end-to-end through education, study and training than any PHD in homeopathic "medicine".
                Last edited by Tayken; 11-05-2012, 09:27 PM.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by SynGreis View Post
                  got this from my nurse practionioner and her boss which was a homeopathic doctor.

                  sounds legit.
                  My witch doctor told me that I need to lick some frogs at night.

                  sounds legit.

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                  • #10
                    Oh...you're looking for your prince, too?

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by blinkandimgone View Post
                      Oh...you're looking for your prince, too?
                      That would be some sweet SS.

                      I'm hitting up the pet store tomorrow.

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                      • #12
                        Through the years when my son was in school I was quite amused by the various parents who had high-strung, unruly children whom they quickly labelled as ADD. Then the schools started to to label as well. I found out after some inquiring that schools like kids getting "diagnosed" with one thing or another because the school can then apply for special funding.

                        At one point in my son's early academic history, the school counselor told me she thought my son had a "learning disability" so I spent 1500.00 and paid for private testing. Results were not surprising - lazy kid.

                        Sometimes the answer for children's poor grades is right in front of our own eyes.

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                        • #13
                          And sometimes, they have ADD/ADHD.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by blinkandimgone View Post
                            And sometimes, they have ADD/ADHD.
                            And sometimes, even when they have ADD/ADHD, they can be treated with behavioural modification rather than medication.

                            Take away the kid's cellphone, and he'll already concentrate twice as much as his peers.

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                            • #15
                              ASSuming he has one.

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