**sigh**
So the last 2 or 3 weeks, my oldest daughter (soon to be 7) has been acting out more so than usual, has been very sad that dad's not in the home anymore (I moved out with the kids)...
In an effort to help her, I've allowed her to call him every night before bed, even helping her memorize his number. The house phone is always available for her to use.....
Then Monday evening when I'm picking the kids up from daycare, daughter tells me that she was crying at school in the morning when daddy dropped her off because she didn't want him to go.
I have gone out of my way to continue promoting a positive relationship between my daughters and their father. While they do live with me, I wish I could get him to take them more than EOW...
....but what do I do now? Weekends at dad's house mean staying up as late as they want, watching whatever they want, no rules..... that makes dad the "fun parent".... whereas in my home we have bedtimes, and meal times, and we clean up after ourselves...... Mom is no fun.... Mom is the meanie.... I know I can't *make* him be a good parent.... but it hurts watching my daughter go through this. Logically I know that she is finally dealing with the separation (though stbx and I have lived apart since Sept '11) but what can I do to help her?!
So the last 2 or 3 weeks, my oldest daughter (soon to be 7) has been acting out more so than usual, has been very sad that dad's not in the home anymore (I moved out with the kids)...
In an effort to help her, I've allowed her to call him every night before bed, even helping her memorize his number. The house phone is always available for her to use.....
Then Monday evening when I'm picking the kids up from daycare, daughter tells me that she was crying at school in the morning when daddy dropped her off because she didn't want him to go.
I have gone out of my way to continue promoting a positive relationship between my daughters and their father. While they do live with me, I wish I could get him to take them more than EOW...
....but what do I do now? Weekends at dad's house mean staying up as late as they want, watching whatever they want, no rules..... that makes dad the "fun parent".... whereas in my home we have bedtimes, and meal times, and we clean up after ourselves...... Mom is no fun.... Mom is the meanie.... I know I can't *make* him be a good parent.... but it hurts watching my daughter go through this. Logically I know that she is finally dealing with the separation (though stbx and I have lived apart since Sept '11) but what can I do to help her?!
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