Question On Status Quo

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My STBX has a job that she can go back to but refuses so she is off....because she is off and I have to work she cares for the children Mon-Fri 8-5:30....I have my kids Sun noon until Tues morning she cares for them during the day and then again Thursday 5:30 until Sat noon and again on the week days she cares for them.....I am happy with the amount of time I am getting with my kids but I am worried that it will be viewed as her having the kids most of the time and I will get shafted with unacceptable amount of time with my kids down the road...Am I setting myself up for this possibly? Would it be better the days that I have the kids to put them in daycare and have her out of the picture on my days completely?

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There is no hard and fast rule. Judges frown on "counting hours". They tend to count overnights.

Even if she counted the days she cares for them, this is only, for you, Monday and Friday, 19 hours in total. Meanwhile you have four overnights to her three. Your time is fairly evenly split.

If there were some kind of argument from her that overnights count less than the daytimes, a judge would despise that kind of argument. That said, if push came to shove and you had to argue it, you would point out that NO parent spends a solid 9.5 hours paying 100% attention to their kids; they do housework, talk on the phone, look at the internet, watch TV, etc. etc. Meanwhile during the nights, you are still responsible for their safety and well being, you make dinner, eat together, play, read, bathe them, put them to bed, you are there when they wake up at night crying, you care for them in the middle of the night when they are throwing up, etc. etc.

However DON'T bring this kind of argument up unless your ex tries to argue first. Arguing about who provides what care makes you both look bad.

[onlybeginning]

There is no hard and fast rule. Judges frown on "counting hours". They tend to count overnights.

Even if she counted the days she cares for them, this is only, for you, Monday and Friday, 19 hours in total. Meanwhile you have four overnights to her three. Your time is fairly evenly split.

If there were some kind of argument from her that overnights count less than the daytimes, a judge would despise that kind of argument. That said, if push came to shove and you had to argue it, you would point out that NO parent spends a solid 9.5 hours paying 100% attention to their kids; they do housework, talk on the phone, look at the internet, watch TV, etc. etc. Meanwhile during the nights, you are still responsible for their safety and well being, you make dinner, eat together, play, read, bathe them, put them to bed, you are there when they wake up at night crying, you care for them in the middle of the night when they are throwing up, etc. etc.

However DON'T bring this kind of argument up unless your ex tries to argue first. Arguing about who provides what care makes you both look bad.

Thanks, appreciated!