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Although many posters here disagree with my conduct re spousal support, and the never ending lies that I have uncovered with my x, there isn't a moment that I am not thankful that when I separated my children were adults.
The trauma has been great for them even so, and I continued to support them emotionally and financially as best I could to complete their university studies, with monies that I had saved, ( collapsing rrsp's and the like from my wokring days) and some inheritence.
I can't even imagine the pain children endure when they are used as pawns and power trips. Mothers or fathers influencing them to stay away from their other parent, or parents deserting their responsibilities. It isn't a matter of who does it,,, an angry bitter vindictive irresponsibile, power tripping mother/ father it's just the fact that these innocent victims have to deal with this.
My heart goes out to those children who have had to deal with this.
My 2 boys as adults, are having a hard time dealing with a father who continues to lie to them, who has bascially turned his back on them. I in some way take responsiblity as I am the one who asked him to leave, making the decision to break up the family unit as the children knew it. My children support my decision and have tried to have a relationship with their dad. Neither lives at home, and have encouraged them to seek out a relationship that they are comfortable with.
The thought that younger kids have to deal with this emotional turmoil is just unfair and I challenge parents to rise above the anger and do what is in the child's best interest, not what you think is best for your situation, but what is best for those innocent victims.
My eldest son got married last summer, His wish was for his parents to walk him down the isle, and so it was.
The best investment I ever made was in my kids, there is no material comfort in the world that can bring joy and happiness like they do.
The trauma has been great for them even so, and I continued to support them emotionally and financially as best I could to complete their university studies, with monies that I had saved, ( collapsing rrsp's and the like from my wokring days) and some inheritence.
I can't even imagine the pain children endure when they are used as pawns and power trips. Mothers or fathers influencing them to stay away from their other parent, or parents deserting their responsibilities. It isn't a matter of who does it,,, an angry bitter vindictive irresponsibile, power tripping mother/ father it's just the fact that these innocent victims have to deal with this.
My heart goes out to those children who have had to deal with this.
My 2 boys as adults, are having a hard time dealing with a father who continues to lie to them, who has bascially turned his back on them. I in some way take responsiblity as I am the one who asked him to leave, making the decision to break up the family unit as the children knew it. My children support my decision and have tried to have a relationship with their dad. Neither lives at home, and have encouraged them to seek out a relationship that they are comfortable with.
The thought that younger kids have to deal with this emotional turmoil is just unfair and I challenge parents to rise above the anger and do what is in the child's best interest, not what you think is best for your situation, but what is best for those innocent victims.
My eldest son got married last summer, His wish was for his parents to walk him down the isle, and so it was.
The best investment I ever made was in my kids, there is no material comfort in the world that can bring joy and happiness like they do.
). She and I have talked about it since she was old enough to dream about princess weddings. I'm so proud of what my ex and I have accomplished together as parents, and the child we have raised.
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