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My first post. Will likely post both questions of my own here as well as responses to some of the questions of others.
Some notes about me:
. male aged 58, going through second divorce, university educated
. income 87,000
. two adult children from first marriage
Both university graduates, debt free, independant
Children resided with mother.
All my support obligations paid in full years ago
. two daughters aged 15 and 10 from second marriage
Both healthy, gifted, responsible, well adjusted
Some notes about my ex
. aged 45, born in Taiwan, college and university educated in Canada
. intentionally unemployed, except for multi-level marketing sales
. Likely hiding whatever income she makes
. I would argue income of $40,000+ should be imputed
Some notes about the marriage
. Married 1994
. Separated 2006
. NON traditional marriage
- ex worked in the business we both own (office manager)
- 1 year maternity leave for both kids
And the weirdest part.. we (all 4) continue to reside in Matrimonial home, together with adult sister of my ex, for reasons as follows:
- For me.. will not leave and prejudice joint custody. My kids need me.
- For the ex... She can't afford to leave. Refuses to work
- For her sister.. I wanted her out for years, but both ex and sister refuse
- High debt at date of separation means x and I could not have kept two residences even if we wanted to. I have (without help from ex) reduced this debt by more than 1/2 since separation.
Atmosphere at home is civil, without much animosity, but also without much "warmth".
I pay all housing costs, and buy/prepare 50% of kids meals, and pay all doctors, glasses, dentist, 50% school expenses, 50% clothing, kids allowances and $4000/year to RESP to save for university. Ex pays 50% of food, school expenses and clothing.
We are both self represented. Owned a small and heavily indebted software company at date of separation and legal costs if we slug it out would be more than either can afford.
We have separation agreement on all but the most major issues of CS, SS, custody, access, NFP. For example we agreed on value of most assets/liabilities at date of marriage and separation (only house and mortgage remain). We agreed kids will reside in Canada. Doesn't sound like much but the agreements we DO have simplify the remaining issues quite a bit.
Even without agreement I've been paying CS (on shared custody basis, with setoff, based on imputed income by ex, table levels).
That's enough for now.
Not expecting responses.. This was written is an introduction.
Some notes about me:
. male aged 58, going through second divorce, university educated
. income 87,000
. two adult children from first marriage
Both university graduates, debt free, independant
Children resided with mother.
All my support obligations paid in full years ago
. two daughters aged 15 and 10 from second marriage
Both healthy, gifted, responsible, well adjusted
Some notes about my ex
. aged 45, born in Taiwan, college and university educated in Canada
. intentionally unemployed, except for multi-level marketing sales
. Likely hiding whatever income she makes
. I would argue income of $40,000+ should be imputed
Some notes about the marriage
. Married 1994
. Separated 2006
. NON traditional marriage
- ex worked in the business we both own (office manager)
- 1 year maternity leave for both kids
And the weirdest part.. we (all 4) continue to reside in Matrimonial home, together with adult sister of my ex, for reasons as follows:
- For me.. will not leave and prejudice joint custody. My kids need me.
- For the ex... She can't afford to leave. Refuses to work
- For her sister.. I wanted her out for years, but both ex and sister refuse
- High debt at date of separation means x and I could not have kept two residences even if we wanted to. I have (without help from ex) reduced this debt by more than 1/2 since separation.
Atmosphere at home is civil, without much animosity, but also without much "warmth".
I pay all housing costs, and buy/prepare 50% of kids meals, and pay all doctors, glasses, dentist, 50% school expenses, 50% clothing, kids allowances and $4000/year to RESP to save for university. Ex pays 50% of food, school expenses and clothing.
We are both self represented. Owned a small and heavily indebted software company at date of separation and legal costs if we slug it out would be more than either can afford.
We have separation agreement on all but the most major issues of CS, SS, custody, access, NFP. For example we agreed on value of most assets/liabilities at date of marriage and separation (only house and mortgage remain). We agreed kids will reside in Canada. Doesn't sound like much but the agreements we DO have simplify the remaining issues quite a bit.
Even without agreement I've been paying CS (on shared custody basis, with setoff, based on imputed income by ex, table levels).
That's enough for now.
Not expecting responses.. This was written is an introduction.
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