New - and lost

[Epona]

I second what Tayken, winterwolf7, Rioe and Pursuinghappiness wrote! :-)
Hope you and your wife are able to mend the tear. Things won't be the same -- Good Luck :-)

[karmaseeker]

I am glad to hear you are in counselling. This is all new and there will be a full spectrum of emotions that surface over the next few months. I would recommend journaling. 1/ this gives you a release to be able to work through your own reactions and 2/ it documents it.

I would proceed with caution. Yes, one side of you will want it to work and the other side will have experienced a breech in trust so large there will be skepticism. This can be healthy - use it to fuel you in getting educated on the what if scenarios.

Best of luck to you and I am sorry you are experiencing this.

[AnarX]

Just to let people know we are trying to work things out. She says it started as a silly game that got out of hand, that it was exciting, etc. She says she loves me, and is extremely sorry. I have to hope that's true. We will be seeing a marriage counsellor. recommendations?

Hope is your enemy. Call a divorce lawyer now.

In June 2012, you will wish you had started divorce proceedings now.