Hello all,
Wish we could have been talking about a different subject all together.
A bit about my situation;
My common law wife of 26 years got hooked on prescription weight loss drugs about 5 years ago. She suffered all the worst side effects;paranoia, taste change, change in touch etc.... and I had no idea she was on them. When we took her to the local hospital the doctor told her to get off them immediately! Dexedrine (speed) 3 times a day or about 100 pills per month.
With this was a daily regimented workout almost at an obsession level. She looks incredible for a 45 year old.
Last January, after much pleading from myself and my two daughters age 12 and 14 to get off them, she refused saying they did not affect her, she assaulted me, not violently but she was the aggressor. I restrained her to protect myself and let her go when she stopped resisting.
She called 911, the police came, spoke to me, my girls and my wife all separately and they arrested her. She lived with her elderly aunt about 2 months and was later tossed out because she stayed on the drugs and did nothing to help herself. With nowhere else to turn, she slept in the local Walmart lot one night and contacted the kids in the morning.
I called her (not supposed to talk to her) and told her to go to a local bed and breakfast to get some decent sleep and shower until we could find her a place pending her court date. She stayed about a month there and I paid for everything....lawyer, B&B, groceries, so on.
The Crown made a deal with her to get off the drugs in a controlled fashion under doctor's care and they would drop the assault charge and placed a peace bond on her for 1 year. She followed through and eventually came home. I spent about 3 months or so looking after the house, the kids, work etc until she returned. She blamed me for everything and the relationship suffered. I tried all I could to get her forget the past and lets move on. We went out for dinners, dancing etc, but it did not seem to work. She was angry and bitter at me.
On July 1st, she attacked my 14 year old daughter and I called 911. The police did not want to do anything and recommended to me I leave her.
We lived together, slept in separate beds and so on until we put our house for sale on Oct 15. On Oct 23, she assualted me again and my youngest daughter (12) called 911. The police arrived and again did not want to take action despite the Peace Bond. I told them if they did not act, I would get a restraining order iin the morning fro the JP. They decided to arrest her again. After 3 nights in jail, she was bailed out by her brother and he is her surety. Her brother is not helping much as I told him she needs medical or psychological help but all he talk about is lawyers, court and cleaning me out.
I have defacto custody of the kids and they do not want to visit their mom who has turned into a chronic liar.
My questions are;
Can I get custody of the kids and will it be hard to do?
Do I have to pay spousal support (she worked for cash cleaning houses) but she never really had a permanent job.
I paid $150k down payment on the house (we both are on title) and there is about 250K equity in it. What is she entitled to?
She wants the house sold today (she is hurting for money), what can I do to stall it? I may consider buying her out so the kids can stay here in the same house.
I may try to buy out her spousal support with the house buyout. How could I work that and how would child support work in this equation?
Sorry for the long story.....
Wish we could have been talking about a different subject all together.
A bit about my situation;
My common law wife of 26 years got hooked on prescription weight loss drugs about 5 years ago. She suffered all the worst side effects;paranoia, taste change, change in touch etc.... and I had no idea she was on them. When we took her to the local hospital the doctor told her to get off them immediately! Dexedrine (speed) 3 times a day or about 100 pills per month.
With this was a daily regimented workout almost at an obsession level. She looks incredible for a 45 year old.
Last January, after much pleading from myself and my two daughters age 12 and 14 to get off them, she refused saying they did not affect her, she assaulted me, not violently but she was the aggressor. I restrained her to protect myself and let her go when she stopped resisting.
She called 911, the police came, spoke to me, my girls and my wife all separately and they arrested her. She lived with her elderly aunt about 2 months and was later tossed out because she stayed on the drugs and did nothing to help herself. With nowhere else to turn, she slept in the local Walmart lot one night and contacted the kids in the morning.
I called her (not supposed to talk to her) and told her to go to a local bed and breakfast to get some decent sleep and shower until we could find her a place pending her court date. She stayed about a month there and I paid for everything....lawyer, B&B, groceries, so on.
The Crown made a deal with her to get off the drugs in a controlled fashion under doctor's care and they would drop the assault charge and placed a peace bond on her for 1 year. She followed through and eventually came home. I spent about 3 months or so looking after the house, the kids, work etc until she returned. She blamed me for everything and the relationship suffered. I tried all I could to get her forget the past and lets move on. We went out for dinners, dancing etc, but it did not seem to work. She was angry and bitter at me.
On July 1st, she attacked my 14 year old daughter and I called 911. The police did not want to do anything and recommended to me I leave her.
We lived together, slept in separate beds and so on until we put our house for sale on Oct 15. On Oct 23, she assualted me again and my youngest daughter (12) called 911. The police arrived and again did not want to take action despite the Peace Bond. I told them if they did not act, I would get a restraining order iin the morning fro the JP. They decided to arrest her again. After 3 nights in jail, she was bailed out by her brother and he is her surety. Her brother is not helping much as I told him she needs medical or psychological help but all he talk about is lawyers, court and cleaning me out.
I have defacto custody of the kids and they do not want to visit their mom who has turned into a chronic liar.
My questions are;
Can I get custody of the kids and will it be hard to do?
Do I have to pay spousal support (she worked for cash cleaning houses) but she never really had a permanent job.
I paid $150k down payment on the house (we both are on title) and there is about 250K equity in it. What is she entitled to?
She wants the house sold today (she is hurting for money), what can I do to stall it? I may consider buying her out so the kids can stay here in the same house.
I may try to buy out her spousal support with the house buyout. How could I work that and how would child support work in this equation?
Sorry for the long story.....
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