My god I need help

[tugofwar]

so look dadtotheend, your right no more venting .....now I am going for what I belive is right.

What about me???? LOL

If you are not worried about the condition of the place, then maybe offer her a tour if she feels fit to do so.
If you have no agreement in place and the place is in both names, I don't think you are able to rent it out from what I heard.
Are you common law or actually married?
Have either one of you started any type of agreement or court or orders of any such?

[Mess]

WHAT A GREAT SITE AND BLESS THE DAY I FOUND IT!!!

We like you too!!

[tugofwar]

Well, I know Mess you like me, you like me alot! Like I said anytime you need a good looking young girl to show off.... I'll be that girl! LOL
You have done so much for me, and your patience is amazing.
Although Mess can come across as insensitive, deep down he is a BIG TEDDY BEAR! Sorry didn't mean to "mess" up your bad boy attitude.
lol

[Tim Cash]

lol you guys are great, no we are not married , yes we are both on the deed , and I have a roommate to help make ends meet. He has rights and Our problems do not involve him. He is renting , and she is aware of that.

[Tim Cash]

no there is no courts involved as of yet , Now I have a question...the FACS case I mentioned ...while I was crying about how crappy my life has been ....Does it have any bearing ?

[tugofwar]

Have you started any types of agreements to custody, support etc? Either one of you seeked legal advice or representation?

[dadtotheend]

Like I said anytime you need a good looking young girl to show off.... I'll be that girl! LOL

Hey what about me????? lmao

[Tim Cash]

Like I said ....I have been kissing her ass for 3 yrs now just to keep peace and THAT for the most part is not working. I have not ...I can only surmise she has . I am now a little worried about the # of posts I put up...lol

[tugofwar]

Don't worry, you are in a state of shock and already you have shown you have calmed down. Don't worry we have all been there and done that. It's just human nature to sometimes react this way.
You were just so lucky to find this site when you did

And dadtotheend,
didn't you already get enough praise on this site? Alittle greedy..lol
My offer stands with you too then?

Sorry don't want to start making this look like a dating site or service.

[tugofwar]

Like I said ....I have been kissing her ass for 3 yrs now just to keep peace and THAT for the most part is not working. I have not ...I can only surmise she has . I am now a little worried about the # of posts I put up...lol

that will just making you a senior member fast. jk

[Tim Cash]

do I get a senior discount with a lawyer?

[tugofwar]

Yah, don't we all wish.... LOL

Welcome and hope you are able to find lots of helpful information here that you need to help with everything you are going thru!

[dinkyface]

The more you can learn about how this process/system all works, the more you know about your rights, and those of your children, the more confident you will become. You can start your reading here: The Supporting Families Experiencing Separation and Divorce Initiative

And some articles on this site here: http://www.ottawadivorce.com/divorce-faqs.htm

A lot of people here have read/recommend the book 'Tug of War', by Justice Brownstone (a family court judge).

If you are in Toronto, there is a men's support group that meets Weds evenings. Can get you more info if you like.

[Mess]

Hey what about me????? lmao

Well she could show off two good looking guys, one on each arm.

[tugofwar]

Just a word of caution, dont do anything right now. Stay low until you get your strength back and get more information off here. Last thing you need to do is get her going anymore and make the situation worse which looks like in your case both are about to blow.
Cut communications with her, tell her you will get back to her in a few days... If anything, just communicate via emails (as you can use this as proof later on if you need to) about the children ONLY! If you have to talk to her keep it just about the children tell her you need time and space for everything else. Trust me, she will be in total shock if you do this and she won't know how to react. Tell her you both need a cooling down phase.

Read, post, search, ask, seek answers. Work on getting YOURSELF stronger. Ignore her and her remarks etc.