I'm sure it gets easier with time...right?

[penperson]

First time post,

This is probably typical. I've been with the same person for 10 years and married for about five. Over time we simply grew apart and our priorities changed. About a year ago we had a frank discussion and agreed the relationship needed work. Since neither of us were willing to work things out, we decided to part ways. Moved out a few weeks ago. I have a feeling the material stuff will work itself out.
The challenge is starting over almost from scratch socially. When you're in a relationship you do "couple things," you hang around with family and other couples. I did see my single friends, but it was often just a few times a year.
It seems that the biggest challenge is to learn to cope with being single instead of succumbing to the temptation and entering into an ill-fated rebound relationship.
Any tips, suggestions?

[dadtotheend]

Take time for yourself. Revisit single friends and cultivate new friendships by geting a new hobby, for me it's golf. Don't define yourself by the person with whom you are in a relationship.

[penperson]

I'm sure it gets easier with time...right?

Take time for yourself. Revisit single friends and cultivate new friendships by geting a new hobby, for me it's golf. Don't define yourself by the person with whom you are in a relationship.

Thanks-dadtotheend: "Don't define yourself by the person with whom you are in a relashionship" will stick with me. When I was married, often lamented the fact that I never had time to myself. Now I can read all those books I never read, spend that extra half-hour at the gym or even go on that solo trip across Europe I never did in my 20s.

[Builder]

Second time answer!

dadtotheend sums it up..except for the lonely times. Do your best not to be alone when you are feeling like you are sinking. Pick up the phone, drop by and visit someone, go out and move around where there are people, whatever. When you are in your really low moments your thoughts will torment you...you have to try to work yourself out of them and for that you need people and/or activity.
And yes, it does get easier with time. You're probbaly already sick of hearing that......