Hello everyone,
I've heard good things about this forum.
I have a 14 month old son with my ex-girlfriend. We have never lived together and are both in our late 20's.
Although we were together throughout the pregnancy, things quickly went downhill after the birth of the child.
My ex lives at home and will not allow me ANY one on one time with my son. She watches my every move (there is no "reason" for this) and has not once "allowed" me to take him anywhere, not even for an hour, let alone overnight.
I know I've let this go too long and wish I'd acted sooner. I am starting to communicate more by email in order to have some "proof" of how she can be (denying access/limiting my time or flat out refusing) but for the longest time, I guess I had hoped things would improve. I also felt intimidated by her threats to take me to Court. Now I see that it is I who should initiate court action as we are just spinning our wheels. I cannot reason with her, and she micro manages every moment I have with my son. The visits are always at her apartment, and she will suddenly tell me I have to go, and that if I don't, she'll call the police.. I've been threatened with "police" "court" "restraining orders" etc.
I only want to spend time with my son and I don't need to be supervised. There is no history of violence and I have not been arrested or charged with anything.
I'd appreciate any advice I can get. I am going this week for a free half hour consultation with a lawyer, but I don't know what to expect from that and need to think of a way to gather up some cash for a retainer.
Thanks for any help you can offer.
I've heard good things about this forum.
I have a 14 month old son with my ex-girlfriend. We have never lived together and are both in our late 20's.
Although we were together throughout the pregnancy, things quickly went downhill after the birth of the child.
My ex lives at home and will not allow me ANY one on one time with my son. She watches my every move (there is no "reason" for this) and has not once "allowed" me to take him anywhere, not even for an hour, let alone overnight.
I know I've let this go too long and wish I'd acted sooner. I am starting to communicate more by email in order to have some "proof" of how she can be (denying access/limiting my time or flat out refusing) but for the longest time, I guess I had hoped things would improve. I also felt intimidated by her threats to take me to Court. Now I see that it is I who should initiate court action as we are just spinning our wheels. I cannot reason with her, and she micro manages every moment I have with my son. The visits are always at her apartment, and she will suddenly tell me I have to go, and that if I don't, she'll call the police.. I've been threatened with "police" "court" "restraining orders" etc.
I only want to spend time with my son and I don't need to be supervised. There is no history of violence and I have not been arrested or charged with anything.
I'd appreciate any advice I can get. I am going this week for a free half hour consultation with a lawyer, but I don't know what to expect from that and need to think of a way to gather up some cash for a retainer.
Thanks for any help you can offer.
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