Time and again here people will post up a question or a viewpoint and then when somebody disagrees the original poster gets his/her backup because they got told something that they didn't want to hear.
Then the knee jerk response is that the original poster is being judged.
Well you know what? Fundamentally when people ask for advice, they are asking for a judgement of what ought to happen. Every time someone offers advice, they are making a judgement.
The word judgement takes a beating around here because it is so often used to discredit the views of someone who tells someone else what they don't want to hear.
It's peculiar how people don't use the word "judgement" when they get advice that agrees with them e.g. "Hey thanks Joe for that judgement. That's exactly what I was thinking. I'm headed off to the FRO right now". I guess it just doesn't have the same ring to it as when you are dissing someone else's advice. Oh well.
The thing is, all advice stems from a judgement, not just the advice you don't want to hear.
So how about giving the word judgement a break OK? I propose that if you don't agree with someone else's advice to you, don't tell them they are judging you. Just call a spade a spade and tell them you think they are a prick
Then the knee jerk response is that the original poster is being judged.
Well you know what? Fundamentally when people ask for advice, they are asking for a judgement of what ought to happen. Every time someone offers advice, they are making a judgement.
The word judgement takes a beating around here because it is so often used to discredit the views of someone who tells someone else what they don't want to hear.
It's peculiar how people don't use the word "judgement" when they get advice that agrees with them e.g. "Hey thanks Joe for that judgement. That's exactly what I was thinking. I'm headed off to the FRO right now". I guess it just doesn't have the same ring to it as when you are dissing someone else's advice. Oh well.
The thing is, all advice stems from a judgement, not just the advice you don't want to hear.
So how about giving the word judgement a break OK? I propose that if you don't agree with someone else's advice to you, don't tell them they are judging you. Just call a spade a spade and tell them you think they are a prick

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