I just read a post that talks about someone's rights regarding a parenting schedule issue. That post on it's own wasn't especially bad, but the language used by the poster got me thinking. It struck me that so many people in separation talk about their rights. Fundamentally, they don't see that is the kid's rights that are most important. It's so simple but so often not really about the children.
Many people pay lip service to being child-centred, focused, whatever. Sadly, one only has to rattle that cage just slightly and all of sudden it becomes all about me and my wants. One just has to listen to some people who don't think from the child's perspective for less than 10 minutes to figure out that fundamentally, they just don't get it.
Frankly, it boggles my mind how some people, even when claiming to be doing things for the "best interests of the children" all of a sudden show their true colours in the face of even the smallest level of disagreement. How many times have you read on this site the phrase, "Can I go after him/her for...."? Pardon me?
If there is one simple piece of advice that can be distilled from all the bullshit that separated parents throw around in the settlement of their differences, it's to think about the problems from the kids perspective. It's sssssssooooo simple but sssssssooooo overlooked.
It really is unbelievable how kooky it can all be.
Many people pay lip service to being child-centred, focused, whatever. Sadly, one only has to rattle that cage just slightly and all of sudden it becomes all about me and my wants. One just has to listen to some people who don't think from the child's perspective for less than 10 minutes to figure out that fundamentally, they just don't get it.
Frankly, it boggles my mind how some people, even when claiming to be doing things for the "best interests of the children" all of a sudden show their true colours in the face of even the smallest level of disagreement. How many times have you read on this site the phrase, "Can I go after him/her for...."? Pardon me?
If there is one simple piece of advice that can be distilled from all the bullshit that separated parents throw around in the settlement of their differences, it's to think about the problems from the kids perspective. It's sssssssooooo simple but sssssssooooo overlooked.
It really is unbelievable how kooky it can all be.
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