After close to 2 years of litigation it is all over and in a final order signed by a judge.
We had a 4 hour settlement conference last week and the judge was awesome. The judge wouldn't leave for the weekend until it was settled. The judge was very fair and I think my ex and I both walked away feeling relieved and satisfied.
The custody remains joint, access remains 50/50, child support offset, and spousal was waived in exchange for me taking on remaining debt from the marriage (this ensures it gets paid). Overall, I am very happy.
I know its a stretch but since the settlement my ex has been a lot easier to deal with and I hope its a sign of things to come even though its only been a few days.
There was the temptation to throw in her face the fact that this settlement isn't nearly as good as the one I offered out of court almost 2 years ago. In the end, that gets no one anywhere and really, I'm glad I said nothing. Its going to be hard to get past everything that my ex has done and said, but the only option is to move forward. I'm really glad I didn't say anything negative to her when we left court.
I can't name everyone, but my sincere thanks to anyone on the forum who has replied to my posts and passed along any information they have. Your support, criticisms and reality checks were very valuable and I learned a lot from this forum. My lawyer was surprised that I knew some of things that I shared with him.
I'll still be around but I just wanted to share my thanks with all of you. I slept like a baby each night this weekend!!!
We had a 4 hour settlement conference last week and the judge was awesome. The judge wouldn't leave for the weekend until it was settled. The judge was very fair and I think my ex and I both walked away feeling relieved and satisfied.
The custody remains joint, access remains 50/50, child support offset, and spousal was waived in exchange for me taking on remaining debt from the marriage (this ensures it gets paid). Overall, I am very happy.
I know its a stretch but since the settlement my ex has been a lot easier to deal with and I hope its a sign of things to come even though its only been a few days.
There was the temptation to throw in her face the fact that this settlement isn't nearly as good as the one I offered out of court almost 2 years ago. In the end, that gets no one anywhere and really, I'm glad I said nothing. Its going to be hard to get past everything that my ex has done and said, but the only option is to move forward. I'm really glad I didn't say anything negative to her when we left court.
I can't name everyone, but my sincere thanks to anyone on the forum who has replied to my posts and passed along any information they have. Your support, criticisms and reality checks were very valuable and I learned a lot from this forum. My lawyer was surprised that I knew some of things that I shared with him.
I'll still be around but I just wanted to share my thanks with all of you. I slept like a baby each night this weekend!!!
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