Just had my second mediation session today. Can't say I'm overly optimistic about my future. Quick rundown...My base salary is around 90K...but I work overtime and last years T4 showed 109K. STBX has an MBA but has been at home for the last 5 yrs. Five years ago she started a small home based cash business and last year she started teaching at college and has offered her T4 as 12K....
Mediator steps in - goes through divorce mate numbers. CS is around 1500K, SS 1500K....leaving me with about 1500/mth if I don't work OT....OT varies - I could work 10 hrs one month and 50 hours next - am at the whim of work.
I want the kids 40-46% of the time and the mediator indicates that I will STILL be required to pay the full CS. If I do that how do I pay for expenses incurred when I have the kids? If I were to only see the kids once a week or not at all and its 1500.00.....besides the benefit of the love of my kids, how do I survive..unfortunately love doesn't fill their stomachs.
Further he mentions that winter clothing may be viewed as a s7 expense....what the hell is the CS for? Do an 8 and 5 yr old really consume that much in utilities and food each month? So my STBX is getting 3k from me plus her 1K per month and the only money I can guarantee is 1500.00...I thought that this process was an "equalization" of assets.........am very tempted just to run this thing through the system...if Im gonna be out this money Im gonna fight the whole way...
Mediator steps in - goes through divorce mate numbers. CS is around 1500K, SS 1500K....leaving me with about 1500/mth if I don't work OT....OT varies - I could work 10 hrs one month and 50 hours next - am at the whim of work.
I want the kids 40-46% of the time and the mediator indicates that I will STILL be required to pay the full CS. If I do that how do I pay for expenses incurred when I have the kids? If I were to only see the kids once a week or not at all and its 1500.00.....besides the benefit of the love of my kids, how do I survive..unfortunately love doesn't fill their stomachs.
Further he mentions that winter clothing may be viewed as a s7 expense....what the hell is the CS for? Do an 8 and 5 yr old really consume that much in utilities and food each month? So my STBX is getting 3k from me plus her 1K per month and the only money I can guarantee is 1500.00...I thought that this process was an "equalization" of assets.........am very tempted just to run this thing through the system...if Im gonna be out this money Im gonna fight the whole way...
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