2 cs payments

[havebe]

So I have a dillema. My current cls who I have a child with is sick of the money drama that's been going on for 6 years with my ex.

3 years ago my ex and I modified our court order because I simply didn't make enough to pay what I was ordered ( ss was more than cs for 2 kids!). Fro was threatening to take my license for arrears. So at that time my ex saw the light and realized if I didn't have a license, I didn't have a job and agreed to lower it.

Fast forward to now, we just finalized the divorce and my ex was dropped from my benefits. ( she was aware that this was going to happen). However now she says that she wants to go back to the original agreement as she's decided to go back to school. She was supposed to go back to school when we did our original agreement but didn't.

She works approx 20 hours a week for herself cleaning houses. Has never made any real attempt to better herself.

So anyway, my cls is fed up with the constant money issues my ex and I gave and has decided to separate. Saying she can't take the stress anymore.

She works but makes about half what I do. If we go by the tables I would pay cls $704 a month and ex wife $700.00 in ss and $1300.00 a month in cs

I do not have the money for this! I willingly pay for my children but was wondering if the courts will still make me pay ss? It's been 7 years now and she's only 35. What do you think?

[Mess]

Undue hardship specificly includes a legal obligation to support another dependant as a cause.

The CS comes first. The courst will say it has to be paid.

The question of SS to two spouses is the issue here. It is tricky because you will pay one spouse and then argue the amount for the second spouse should be lower due to the support paid for the first. Ideally the amounts should be worked out in common with neither having priority.

Which means if you can all get into a mediator's office, it will work out better for the three of you. If I ever saw a situation that called for amicable mediation, this is it.

Now, as far as your ex trying to reopen SS because she feels like it, that is usually a no-go. It might be different if you suddenly were making more money ( unfair in itself but would be a reason for the courts) but there has been no material change in circumstance between the two of you.

There's a lot missing in your story that would affect things. How long were you married to your first ex? If it has been 7 years already she cannot have much SS left. How long were you with your CLS? Less than 7 years, if you have no child and she has always worked, she does not have a strong claim.

This is way too complicated a situation to get a clear answer from a bunch of amateurs. I would only go so far as to say, in this case throw the tables out the window. Talk to a VERY experienced divorce lawyer for a consultation and get a proper answer. Then take that answer to both your ex's and try to get them into a mediator's office.

And stop shacking up with dames.

[havebe]

My cls doesn't want ss just cs. My ex wife is currently receiving ss but wants to increase it. She isn't yet aware that my cls is thinking of leaving.

[representingself]

How many children do you have with each ex?

How old are they?

[havebe]

I have 2 kids with the ex, 12 & 10. And a 4 year old with my cls.