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    My ex-wife just isn't giving up in her hunger for money and my complete demise...

    a quick run down:
    1) we separated, came up with the separation agreement and child support amount based on the tables.
    2) she knew I had to work lots of over time to be able to pay the CS, debts she 'gave' me, the lease on the car she no longer wanted, along with the clothes on my back.
    3) she then steals my mail to see how much extra I worked last year - and of course has CS adjusted accordingly... hey, no problems, I just love working 70+ hour weeks and never getting to see my kids. Hmf. Next year, I guess it'll be 80 hour weeks. Awesome.


    Anyway... Now, she is claiming that all my kids are 'sick' and have major allergies. They have to (urgently) be on special homeopathic remedies, special diets, etc., etc... A "Dr." has had their blood checked, and run the tests (etc etc etc)... the results are back and all the kids need special diets, special foods, etc. Apparently, the "Dr." is licensed...

    She is expecting half of her expenses in these foods and remedies, since my benefits don't cover 'food'. What is a guy supposed to do? If she can pull this one off, I'll be eating out of the trash cans. I shouldn't have to say it, but, no - I have no cash for a lawyer, and make too much (gross) for legal aid, despite negative income (net).

    Anyone with some experience in this matter? Advice? Thoughts? Should I flee the country to get away from her b.s. yet? Urgent advice needed... the thought of this extra expense is making me sick with stress.

  • #2
    Child Support is suppose to cover the cost of food and I would say that you are covered in that respect.

    What kind of doctor is this and have you been to a consultation?

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    • #3
      Sounds fishy...I don't believe in homeopathic medicine. Do you know what their philosophy is? They think that the best way to get an effect from a chemical is to dilute it to tiny concentrations. I think she's after more money. WHY??? why can't she just accept that there were differences that you two couldn't work out, and that now's the time to go separate ways and start over. Why does she cling on to you financially? She wants your kids, your money, your everything- the only think she doesn't want is you. Does she even realize what you're going through?

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      • #4
        i would tell her that you want a written medical report from a licenced medical doctor who specializes in allergies.

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        • #5
          Food is covered by child support, regardless of what type of food it is. The difference between regular bread and gluten-free bread isn't that big. Maybe $1.50/loaf (that's comparing wonderbread and regular gluten-free rice bread).

          Personally, I am a firm believer of alternative medicines... from personal experience. (When I was experiencing health problems that 5 medical professionals - which included 4 specialists - couldn't fathom let alone find ways to help me, I began going to a fully licensed naturopath who, with a few herbal drops, took care of my health issues. Heck, I had one of the "specialists" even google my symptoms IN FRONT OF ME!)

          If I were you, find out the name of the doctor and schedule an appointment to speak with him/her about your children. You have every right to their medical information, especially when their mother cannot be trusted to provide you with accurate info.

          This way, you can find out for yourself what is really the matter - if anything - and what the treatment is. Then, if that is considered an extraordinary expenses, you are by law obligated to cover your proportionate share of any medical expenses that are not covered by benefits and that have exceeded $100/year.

          If you're unsure how to proceed, you can always make an appointment to speak with duty counsel at any courthouse - it's free. Or you can inquire at a family law clinic.

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          • #6
            Homeopathy is a complete crock. If your kids are actually sick with allergies, insist on having an opinion from a real doctor before you fork over a dime for these costs.

            CS generally covers food costs, but there are certain exceptions. My son was chronically underweight and had to be supplemented for a time - on doctors orders - with protein shakes and bars. These would technically fall under extraordinary medical expense rather than regular CS-covered food costs.

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            • #7
              Most posters are saying "food is covered by CS". What I think they are meaning is "your SHARE of paying for the food at the moms house is paid by CS, SHE is supposed to contribute to the food too". Remember, CS is NOT supposed to cover ALL expenses, only your share when the kids are at moms. So many women get this mixed up, they think CS is supposed to cover ALL the child costs, and get upset when they don't. (funny, she doesn't have to contribute to food etc. when the kids are at your house, but that's another story.......)

              The first line in the guidelines states " the child will continue to benefit from the financial means of BOTH parents".
              Do NOT agree to theses "extra-ordinary" expenses until it is conclusively proven it is NECESSARY, by a regular doctor. Extras are required only where it is of extreme importance to the child and both parents AGREE and BOTH have the MEANS to pay for the "extra" expenses.

              Even if it came down to you "giving in", you should only pay your SHARE of the difference between regular food and "special" food. This is one of the most ridiculous "extras" I've seen asked for. Try to stick this one out if the stress is not too much. Good luck, and keep us posted on how it goes.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by #1StepMom View Post
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                If I were you, find out the name of the doctor and schedule an appointment to speak with him/her about your children. You have every right to their medical information, especially when their mother cannot be trusted to provide you with accurate info.

                This way, you can find out for yourself what is really the matter - if anything - and what the treatment is. ...
                This is a reasonable way to proceeed anyway, you should be aware of your kids health and be in on the decisions.

                As for this being an extraordinary expense - if it is decided that they do require a special diet, and that diet is more expensive than a regular diet, then it is reasonable that you pay (as got2bkid points out) your share of the difference between the regular diet and the special diet. You should not have to pay your share of the special diet, because you are already paying your share for a regular diet, so you just have to pay your share for the extra cost above a regular diet.

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