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  • #46
    Originally posted by Challenger View Post
    judge ordered 2 hours a week visitation
    You should start your own thread to explain why you were given 8 hours per month visitation for 3+ years, and how it wasn't your fault.

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    • #47
      Originally posted by StillPaying View Post

      You should start your own thread to explain why you were given 8 hours per month visitation for 3+ years, and how it wasn't your fault.
      It isn’t too fair to challenge someone’s statement, and then send them to answer in different thread.

      On the actual question- it takes about 9 months to get court date in my town, then OCL takes a great role in delaying their reports, then few reschedules due to COVID.

      I wouldn’t even call courts biased - inefficient is much better word.

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      • #48
        You're jumping over the good part. Why was only 2 hours per week ordered? Why wasn't it increased in 3+ years? Certainly not because of ocl and covid.

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        • #49
          Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
          You're jumping over the good part. Why was only 2 hours per week ordered? Why wasn't it increased in 3+ years? Certainly not because of ocl and covid.
          You asking me to tell what was in the judge’s head? There was nothing in the application against me such as assault, alcohol or substance abuse or even use - I hadn’t touched alcohol in 10 years before divorce.

          I spoke to some other people in the same court - despite judge being different, it was very common ruling.
          I even have instance where the same ruling was applied towards mother (so see, courts aren’t biased, they just don’t do in interest of child).

          And then the OCL. They met children few times in January and once in February. Why, just why they would not have report for September 9 months later? I call it lack of accountability, as I don’t see how 2-3 pages report can’t be produced in 9 month, but can in 9 months and a week - they simply likely forgotten, but you can’t really do anything about them either.

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          • #50
            Well that's a big 2 thumbs down for the blameless, monotonous story. Access only 2 hours per week for 3+ years is not the norm...anywhere. To pretend you don't know why it was ordered, and for so long, is nonsense.

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            • #51
              Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
              Well that's a big 2 thumbs down for the blameless, monotonous story. Access only 2 hours per week for 3+ years is not the norm...anywhere. To pretend you don't know why it was ordered, and for so long, is nonsense.
              I am not sure what the common practice province wide - in this court house it seems very common.

              My speculation that reason for OCL and only 2 hours visitation till their report ready was desire from judge to transfer responsibility to someone’s else shoulders.

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              • #52
                You certainly don't have to share your story but it would help the story make sense. Which part of your past are you ignoring or feel is irrelevant?

                Breast feeding babies will have more access with the ex than you. And ocl don't take cases unless they feel it is necessary.

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                • #53
                  Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
                  You certainly don't have to share your story but it would help the story make sense. Which part of your past are you ignoring or feel is irrelevant?

                  Breast feeding babies will have more access with the ex than you. And ocl don't take cases unless they feel it is necessary.
                  I can’t share what I don’t know. I can however tell that Judge even though he granted me only 2 hours in his endorsement and in recommendations to OCL was actually going very hard on mom and the fact she played that trick and took one of the child with use of physical force. To me it was complete nonsense- you pissed of with my ex, yet your actual order supports her.

                  As I as saying before - talking to some now friends processed in same court house, 2 hours a week is a common start. And quite honestly I don’t get it. If judge is afraid parent would harm a child, there should be supervised visitation.



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                  • #54
                    We can chalk it up to ignorance for your case, but no - 8 hours access per month, no overnights, and ocl involvement is not a common start anywhere.

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                    • #55
                      Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
                      We can chalk it up to ignorance for your case, but no - 8 hours access per month, no overnights, and ocl involvement is not a common start anywhere.
                      I don’t have much ego here, and willing to assume I don’t know something. But with CAS, OCL, Police , Psychologist and even testimony from my ex, there was not a single negative report or disclosure about me or my involvement with children. Well, ex of course wrote I am the worst person in the world, but I imagine this is so common in family court that judges just ignore it as white noise.

                      Friend got 3 hours a week with no sleepover for 1.5 years from the same court, and the only reason it was less than three years, is they settled sooner as both ran out of money for legal fees. I spoke with few dads during hours of wait in the court last year - quite a few were in similar shoes.

                      And the fact that OCL actually recommended me to be in charge of children more than 50% speaks for itself. Ex of course didn’t agree, and I offered 50/50 which was accepted.

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                      • #56
                        Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
                        The problem with these strong, negatively viewed posters is that they can find the info, and really keep going on about it, but don't understand what it really means. It's like complaining you can't find gender specific case law regarding access/support.
                        hmm… well that is a little passive aggressive. You decide to attack me? Because you have been proven wrong? Facts don’t lie… and one may need to re-assess their own position if those facts seem to work against you. As in the case of you “Stillpaying”.

                        You just jumped out of the actual topic here and announced that you are speaking from a far left agenda…attack when you have nothing else. I can spin this around and say the same of you. “You just don’t understand the facts and speak from the “I’m always right no matter the facts” left agenda.

                        By not addressing me directly, is a strong message of ignorance and aggression.

                        How is this behaviour permitted on this forum? Unless the forum has a hidden agenda?
                        Last edited by Newfie76; 08-05-2023, 10:33 AM.

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                        • #57
                          Not sure if it's Gerstmanns but proud of you nonetheless.
                          Everyone should be allowed to post - even the nonsensical.

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                          • #58
                            Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
                            Not sure if it's Gerstmanns but proud of you nonetheless.
                            Gerstmann's Syndrome?

                            Seriously? Are you 12? What’s the next name calling? I’ve got me popcorn out!

                            Real class… there actually might be someone on here that has that… good job!

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                            • #59
                              You're special no matter what they say.
                              I think you need a hug; and were probably "busy" Jan 6th.

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                              • #60
                                Originally posted by StillPaying View Post
                                You're special no matter what they say.
                                I think you need a hug; and were probably "busy" Jan 6th.
                                You are just fxxkin weird. Last person someone should be takin advice from on here. Like currently seeing a doctor.. I need help navigating life.. kind of weird.

                                Lol what ever Jan 6 means… lol you are fuckin weird. Considering you are an actual “Senior member” on here… it takes away any credibility this website has… if it had any . Lol

                                Moderator: please close my account. This site has a very high membership rate of incompetent and self entitlement that any attempt at receiving any helpful advice is low before you’ve even logged on.
                                Last edited by Newfie76; 08-05-2023, 02:36 PM.

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