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  • Kkc
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    Perhaps my case is more complex than yours

    if her credit card bills are paid by someone else, it is imputed income, it looks like right now I have overpaid support by 80k..it works both ways
    it is her who is resisting everything
    i should not have had to wait a year to get her bank records..but when she doesn’t have to cooperate and there are no means to hold accountable, not much in way of choice

    im going to be reasonable but I’m not going to leave 200k on the table.

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  • StillPaying
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    Nothing there made sense. Perhaps you're both using non-family lawyers. I'm always amazed by your posts.

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  • Kkc
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    1. Request to credit card companies for statements. She claims she can’t access them bc they are in collections
    2. She and her mom used a cloud based camera to spy on me in my own hosue for 3 months. We confronted with evidence and she made up a story that the judge essentially called her a liar. I agree writing that company won’t yield anything and the play there is make her mom a third party witness with a massive lawsuit

    securities will be because she has no way to pay costs and you cannot expect me being reasonable to litigate against a multimillion dollar company who will pay to campaign against me.

    i dont think it will go to a trial bc her current lawyer seems like he wants out so fast. He’s a personal injury lawyer. No one would take her case. His firm does work for that company..so likely why he took it

    he was entirely lost at the motion…his own financial expert said to me, I don’t know why he asked me to look at the books

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  • StillPaying
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    Originally posted by Kkc View Post
    her lawyer was ordered to write letters to companies for information
    Why would a lawyer write letters to companies and why would anyone respond to it?

    There's no securities play here. Like you said, if no agreement- you're heading to trial.

    Your settlement conference judge is almost certainly the case management judge. Get there earlier by going to court, not mediation and delays.

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  • Kkc
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    If there was any way to reform would be cases go to case management way earlier
    the problem is this case is not complicated at all
    the ex parents are forcing all the expense. If she was paying the lawyers herself she would think twice about misbehaving
    unforTunately for her parents, she may have to ask them for securities

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  • noteasy
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    Dodge CS or spousal by not paying and FRO goes after them.
    Dodge it by brazenly lying and stalling in court and there is virtually no recourse that doesn’t involve punishing the victim.

    Family Court needs a version of a paupers jail to deal with certain situations.

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  • Kkc
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    So she ended up getting a personal injury lawyer

    so it got narrowed down to disclosure on 5 issues

    the judge first said, I think you guys should question
    y Lawyer outdueled the judge on the argument that the affidavit serves as questioning, it was unreal

    she was ordered to answer several financial questions
    her lawyer was ordered to write letters to companies for information
    rhe best was this judge looked at her statements and basically called her a liar

    It should set me up to finally make an offer
    if she does not take it, unfortunately a trial
    her thoughts are she should get 20 years of support when we only together 5

    its become apparent her behavior is enabled by her parents who likely are expensing the legal bills through the business
    she has 0 dollars and close to bankruptcy..she likely will have to get securities


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  • noteasy
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    Will you say what happened with the motion?

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  • Kkc
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    She had a few ommissions
    she claims to have never had an interest in a property but I have a title search with her name on it
    she claims she does not have details of a separate legal file, she can simply get that

    she lied about the camera again

    but she basically paints a picture that the mediator told her she needed a lawyer and at that point I terminated mediation and took her to court

    the email chain shows the opposite

    she included in her affidavit a draft sep agreement the mediator wrote saying I wrote it even though the mediation agreement states it cannot be used in a proceeding..so it will be struck from the record

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  • rockscan
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    Originally posted by Kkc View Post
    Well she got a lawyer..not a very good one who only dabbles into family law.
    She provided the disclosure..only after I brought the motion
    this guy has no clue what he has just walked into
    How was the disclosure, did she provide everything?

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  • noteasy
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    Originally posted by Kkc View Post
    Well she got a lawyer..not a very good one who only dabbles into family law.
    She provided the disclosure..only after I brought the motion
    this guy has no clue what he has just walked into
    This may be good for you as the lawyer may simply want to comply and follow the rules and code

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  • Kkc
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    Well she got a lawyer..not a very good one who only dabbles into family law.
    She provided the disclosure..only after I brought the motion
    this guy has no clue what he has just walked into

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  • noteasy
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    Number 3: Yes, and it was adjourned.
    Number 1: Yes, but the judge said "no, I am not letting you stall this any further."

    Completely different situation than yours.

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  • Kkc
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    its an either or
    she has never self-repped

    but she has fired a lawyer 1 week before questioning and stalled things out

    I guess there are a few scenarios

    1. she self reps and tries to ask for an adjournment and cries she doesnt have a lawyer
    2. a 4th declares themselves at the 11th hour and asks to negotiate
    3. a 4th lawyer declares themselves at 11th hour and asks to adjourn the motion because they need time
    4. she no shows and summary judgment

    I actually want # 2 to happen.

    I just want to know if someone has been in situation 1 or 3 and if the adjournment was granted.
    Keep in mind, this motion is straightforward...there is an order to file taxes, she did not do it, there is an order to provide disclosure, she did not do it. This is also such a waste of judicial resources

    The smartest thing for her upon being served was to start providing disclosure and get taxes filed...much easier to avoid consequences if she is late than never

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  • noteasy
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    "So 1 of 2 things will happen. A lawyer will magically show up the day before and stall things. Or 2, she will cry ignorance as she self reps."

    How many times has she done either of those 2 things before?

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