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[rockscan]

There are no questions asked that prompted the "bullying" moniker.


There as this put forward by the other responder:


If the above quote does not sound hostile to you maybe think about asking this this way in front of a judge and then claiming to be seeking an amicable resolution, I don't see the other party taking it well.

Actually I could see a judge asking this question. Why you didn't do what you could to be with your kids if more time was given to you. I can also see it in an affidavit against giving more time—the respondent was offered more parenting time during xyz weeks and refused saying they did not want to use vacation time to spend with the children or had no child care.

If you are in court fighting for more parenting time you take what you can and manage that time accordingly. Whether it is via vacation, babysitting, working from home, using a family member etc.

[LMum]

Actually I could see a judge asking this question. Why you didn't do what you could to be with your kids if more time was given to you. I can also see it in an affidavit against giving more time—the respondent was offered more parenting time during xyz weeks and refused saying they did not want to use vacation time to spend with the children or had no child care.

If you are in court fighting for more parenting time you take what you can and manage that time accordingly. Whether it is via vacation, babysitting, working from home, using a family member etc.

I totally agree with this. In my situation my ex NEVER took extra time offered, and majority of the his time, didn't take it as agreed. Child now lives with me full time and hasn't seen ex since November. Take all your time, and any extra no matter what you have to do to get it. Otherwise you look bad. In my case it wasn't decided by a judge but recommended by the OCL.

[noteasy]

Actually I could see a judge asking this question.

Strawman statement that is.
As a lawyer in front of a judge was the statement I made.

Judges answer to no one and for right or wrong often act so, they are not bound by the same rules.
Please stop moving the goal posts.

[rockscan]

Strawman statement that is.
As a lawyer in front of a judge was the statement I made.

Judges answer to no one and for right or wrong often act so, they are not bound by the same rules.
Please stop moving the goal posts.

If the OP wants to win more time with his kid he should be taking all the time he's offered regardless of the impact on his personal life. And yes a lawyer too would say it “your honour, my client offered the respondent more time but he refused claiming he was unable to take time off or find a care giver for the child”.

Not to mention cross examination “you were offered time on this date, why did you not take it?†And “if you arent able to take time off to be with your child, how will you be able to have shared physical custody?â€

I also always think of what the other side would throw and what a necessary response would be. Because ultimately you have to consider what a judge would think and in cases like this, a judge would look at whether or not the person fighting for more time took the time that was offered every time it was put forward.

[noteasy]

It is like endless strawman with you. Here is the quote:
"So you are against using vacation time to spend it with your kids? His ex is basically offering him additional time with his kids but he doesn't want to take the time off?"
Stop moving the goal posts.

[guydeluxe2018]

Thanks everyone, all your opinions are appreciated.

[SadAndTired]

Thanks everyone, all your opinions are appreciated.

What did you end up deciding Guy?